[champagneferret]

Anybody else feel like they've been told to just "grow up"? I feel like being bipolar doesn't prevent you from growing up, and that it just makes some things in life more difficult.

I've never been told to "grow up" but my (now ex) husband used to try to "parent" me, which I found very annoying. One time I told him "the more you tell me not to do something, the more I want to do it." He was o.O but it was the truth lol...he was trying to give me a "schedule" like I was a toddler and he was going way overboard.

[sadhappy]

I completely agree with you! Sometimes, I need a harsh remark to shake me up and give me a more realistic perspective, but this sounds someone who's just frustrated with you. Don't get angry with your loved ones, though. It's probably just a tough patch for them as well. Just let it blow over and keep moving forward in a constructive way!

[HALLIEBETH87]

I haven't gotten grow up but I have been told to pull myself together. Bah stupid humans

[winter4me]

"grow up", I think, is one of those expressions used when one doesn't want to actually deal with the subject at hand, hasn't the energy or desire to problem solve, and somehow it is acceptable (& blames the other) ----

When I was younger, like in my teens I was told to grow up, but that's now evolved into "just get over it".

i've often had the saying " you're not a kid anymore"

blah. frustrating

[~Christina]

I don't think I have ever been told to grow up I recently put a purple streak in my hair.. prior to actually doing it, my husband said,," Aren't you too old for that? " I was like Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa..... I am considering adding a blue streak! LOL

[Row Jimmy]

I've always received mixed messages from my family. On one hand, they sort of knew something was wrong with me. On the other, they just wanted me to "deal" with it for "find a way around it".

Originally Posted by rainyday107

I've never been told to "grow up" but my (now ex) husband used to try to "parent" me, which ...

I had a similar thing with my ex, but not to that extent. It was more like a dynamic. He probably didn't think of it like that. It might have just been my perception on account of his being a very even-keeled guy, which I (obviously) couldn't manage to be (even-keeled OR a guy, lol.)

I'm not sure I've ever really been told to "grow up" specifically, but certainly to that I should be able to have better control of myself.
If only...

[WorkhorseDVM]

I get mixed messages, most of the time spouse, T , & PDoc mother me, family expects that I am grown up as I was always "the grown upone".

[WorkhorseDVM]

I get mixed messages, most of the time spouse, T , & PDoc mother me, family expects that I am grown up as I was always "the grown up one".

[blue_eyed_panda]

I haven't been told "grow up" exactly, but I've gotten very similar things said to me. Most of my immediate family is aware that most of my life I'm a two steps forward one step back type person so they don't press me too hard, but others do.

Looking back though I can see how my depressive episodes definitely stunt my emotional/intellectual growth at times. That's when I'd hear things similar to grow up. Then I play catch up when average/hypo. Fun times.

[BipolaRNurse]

Never been told to "grow up", but I have been told "you just need to suck it up and deal with it". Same thing I guess, but never helpful.

[cashart10]

Originally Posted by rainyday107

I've never been told to "grow up" but my (now ex) husband used to try to "parent" me, which I found very annoying. One time I told him "the more you tell me not to do something, the more I want to do it." He was o.O but it was the truth lol...he was trying to give me a "schedule" like I was a toddler and he was going way overboard.

My husband does this very thing. The trouble is, I let him do it and then I later resent him for it. Sometimes I feel like a subservient, coddled, loopy, fierce little child to him. Everything I do, especially when manic, is undoubtedly controlled and then I rebel and defy and challenge all that he says, all of his "rules." I love him dearly and it isn't his fault but he doesn't stand a chance.

[cashart10]

I've never been told to grow up but I've been treated as a child who needs to grow up.

I don't want to grow up, I'm a Toy's R Us Kid

[violet66]

My 16 year old daughter told me to grow up the other day. I wanted to cry and scream at her but instead I calmly reminded her of my MI.

[~Christina]

I think if someone actually told me to grow up I would need to hand them an icepack afterwards

When my teen says it to me, I say, "I am grown up, That is the problem!"

It would be great if I had no responsibilities and didn't have to worry about what I do when manic or depressed. But I am an adult and there are consequences.