question for sufferers

well, she called again at 3 am.. we spoke, she misses my daughter, feels bad etc. She's up all night drinking at her new place.. She has invited me over etc. So, I'm thinking there isnt really a significant other person at this point.. She did say she dated a guy for a month (we broke up 6 weeks ago) and he was too clingy.. I don't know about that as she is a cling on big time.. didnt press the issue. She admits shes drinking way too much and is a sex addict as well.
Today she asked me to meet her so I did.. first time seeing her.. She looked unhealthy. I expected to pick her up and have a visit at the beach or something.. I met her at her moms where her broken car is.. She was in a fit over needing $20 for parts to fix her car.. she's broke.. She got pissed when I refused to give her money, threatened me with not talking to me etc. I took it in stride. Told her money was a boundary. she was freaking out the entire time.. We ended up going for a ride where she bought herself and her brother coffees (about $5) and then a pack of cigarettes ($10)... when i confronted her with the idea of using the $15 towards the $20 for parts so she can drive herself to work, she said it doesnt ****ing matter because she didn't have $20, only $15.. I said good bye, gave her a hug and left. She has texted me since quite a bit. She wanted me to come to her house tonight to talk. I said we can talk but not at her house, again explaining a boundary for me.. She understood. We will see how tonight goes, I'm guessing it's going to turn into her needing me to sleep over or something so she has a ride to work tomorrow. No question she will be asking for something.. She is insanely selfish at this point.. If she can't get something from someone by manipulation, she will not talk to that person.. she has no use for anyone who can't supply her with something.. For some reason she is tolerating me and actually apologized for freaking on me when I refused to give her the $20.. She acknowledges she is manic and sick but still skirts the idea of any treatment. Its been less than a month out on her own and her world is crumbling, bank account in red, broken car, drinking her face off, huge mood swings. I explained to her today the possibility of things getting worse for her. I explained that if she waits til the last minute when she is desperate and totally a blubbering mess to ask for help from me, that I will question her motives. I told her it wouldn't be a good idea to call me from the hospital with no where to turn, no home, no money etc and tell me she loves me and wants me back, because It will not fly

This all sounds like something to run from... If it were just you is say do as you please. You got a daughter though man... She doesn't need to be subject to this... Sounds like I'd break this thing off while your not tied to her... Just my personal opinion at this moment

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Sounds like she may have other issues beside bipolar.

I agree with the other 2 posts. I think it might be good for you to find a therapist to talk to yourself as well as this has obviously been very difficult for you. Depending on the relationship you may want to consider it for your daughter too; as my niece gets older and older I am seeing more and more the impact mental illness has on children who don't understand what is going on completely.

mmmm.. I saw her again last night.. More of the same, explosive temper, then solemness and sorrow, followed by affection, I definitely was able to fill in more blanks, not by her being truthful but more from connecting dots, following her stories and body language.. She is definitely in my opinion swinging in and out of psychosis, but I'm not a doctor.. Today she texted me and said she wants to die.. I texted back and said Please dont, too many people will hurt and too many people need you here. That was 3 hours ago, I assume she found a ride home from work, started drinking, took a nap and will call me later this evening

Just posting an update to vent.
We had a decent week or so. Kept fairly regular contact. Delved into the idea of reconciling quite a bit etc. She is still very active with addictions. She managed to cause an accident and probably total her car 3 nights ago. She is upside down on the car and will likely see no money from it if it is totalled.. Shes unaware of that, her insurance set her up with a rental and shes just thinking all is well.. At any rate, the night after the accident, she called and was super nice to me, told me she missed me and all sorts of things. My power went out, and she invited me over. I went over, we spent the night together, we had an incredible night and it really felt like she was coming around.. She made me feel like the king of the world again. I asked her if there was any citations written at the the accident and she said no. The following morning I noticed she had a citation on her bureau, i let it slide. Another thing that troubled me was her phone going off in the middle of the night. I briefly saw the text and asked.. She sys it was her friend Mark who is married and she gets adderall from.. Now, I'm not stupid, a text string at 3 am is someone who has had sex with you and probably is seeking a late night round. Again, I didnt question.. The next morning we spoke some more, I asked her if she is willing to work on this, She assures me there is noone else in her life currently and she says that she feels the best she has since we broke up because we woke up together and she is super happy. I started to cry, lost it really.. I asked her again if things could work, she said I don't know, I said I feel like you dont want it, she said "you dont know that"... so we kissed and said goodbye. I had a rough day all day thinking.. Crying, thinking.. She texted me immediately after work and said how I was on her mind all day.. I explained I had a rough day and she empathized. the conversation continued a bit and she became frustrated. She took the stance that I wanted all or nothing. I assured her I didnt want all or nothing and that I felt like an option not a priority to her.. The text went dead.. no reply. So a few hours passed, I called, I texted, I called again.. Nothing, drove by her house, she was out so I know she knew I was trying to reach her.. Just totally ignored me. So I sent one more text and said "I'm going to call you one more time and that's it" I waited 5 minutes, dialed and no answer. Clearly she was with someone else last night, the very same day she woke up next to me and said all these wonderful things.. So after the last call, I just sent a text that said "goodbye"
No response, nothing, nothing today, just totally cut me off.. I even dropped 2 bags of groceries on her doorstep this morning (she still wasnt home) she has no money for food so I gave her some extra groceries from when she lived here.. Along with some other personal effects that wer still at my house.. Absolutely dumbfounded here.. I guess it is "goodbye"
She is going downhill. Wait until she figures the whole car thing out and the rental is gone and she is left with no money or vehicle and perhaps even a bill to pay off the loan.. she owes a thousands more than its worth.

I don't really get why a Non is venting about their allegedly bipolar ex in a forum meant for people with bipolar disorder to engage in peer support. Like I'm sure you're hurting after a rough break up, but I find this really awkward and kind of offensive.

Yeah this is getting a bit ridiculous... And it sounds like the guy posting isn't so much in love with her but "addicted" to her... I once had a relationship somewhat like that except no kids were involved.. I was in my early 20s... She did something stupid for the 50th time and I walked away never talked to her again. She tried contacting me over and over a year later.. No reply from me. Then I got married to my wife.. Seen a picture of her like 6 months later and she had gained like 50 pounds. I'm pretty sure it had a lot to do with me. Hilarious, karma is a b.... Anywp if your not smart enough to to walk away sounds like that's your problem. Not hers

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Your girlfriend honestly sounds like a sociopath to me