Lost friends

Today my best friends told me they don't want to be friends with me anymore. When I'm depressed I tend to isolate myself. I'm very bad at picking up phones and going out of the house makes me either break out in tears or have a panic attack. They told me I don't care about them because I don't go out with them anymore, even if I've tried explaining to them many times about my condition. I feel terrible, like a horrible, horrible person. My illness has stolen everything from me, from my fit body, to my boyfriend, to my studies and now finally to my friends. I feel so alone.

They don't sound like very good friends. Some friends last for a season, other for a lifetime. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Thank you, it's very difficult for me. I just told them that I had hurt myself because I'm so upset and they didn't even bat an eye. *trig warning*

I concur, sounds like a bunch of crappy "friends" you're describing.


Real friends stick by you through thick and thin, and don't give you flack for not feeling well.


I mean, just how self-absorbed, selfish and self-centered do you have to be to make it about you when your friend is depressed or having panic attacks when faced with leaving the house!!??


Its not your bipolar *****ing up your relationships, this is life showing you how poorly you've chosen your inner circle, its showing you how you've placed your trust and loyalty in the hands of the wrong people.


Bipolar has a way of weeding out the bad eggs in our lives for us.


I'm really sorry your friends turned out to be a bunch of assholes.

I'm sorry you are having a tough go through this. Our mental illness takes so much away from us and it hurts.

I have trouble keeping friends,too because I either never feel like doing anything or I'm too anxious to go out. I miss out on a lot.

I wish you didn't have to go through it.


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Thank you for being so kind, I really appreciate it. <3
I just told them where to stick it. I don't need those people in my life who make it all about themselves when their friend is dealing with heavy stuff.

I can relate to you. Our mental illness does take a lot away from us, we just have to be strong.

During my last ride out to Pluto I lost what I had left, I haven't tried to make new friends. I completely understand.

I've lost numerous friends the last couple years. It's heartbreaking to me. I'm dealing with it right now. I hope things look up for you soon.

I'm not going to assert that your former friends are 'bad' people. But I will say that they don't sound like a good fit for your needs.

This I can relate to. I use to be kinda conservative involved in the community. In leadership roles. Well after my onset my friends from the same circle pretty much thought I could just pray abt it and take meds then all would be well. My mania caused me to get tattoos and piercings. I would stay up late and want to hang out and dress flamboyant. When depressed I wanted to stay in and just cry abt how my life was now f*** up. I was so up and down. My friends fell off quicker than leaves in the fall.

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I've lost a lot of friends over the years but that doesn't bother me. We all go our own separate ways in life.....they continued on with theirs and I chose not to come along. But that's OK. Your focus should be on you now. IMO, the social pressure to "keep up" only adds to the challenges associated with BP. Consider your calendar wide open now and have at it!

Rock on!

My best friend told me that she did not want a nutcase (yes- she used those words)
in her life, and that was it, over, no more friendship.
At first I was really hurt but I've come to realize that it is her loss not mine.
Some people are just out and out stupid.
Your friends don't deserve you, and you don't deserve to be treated like that

I have lost several friends to this illness over the years. One was once my best friend at a time when I was very, very sick. She was like a mother to me and I honestly believe she became tired of taking care of me. She just abruptly stopped talking to me. These days we are friends from a distance (it doesn't help she lives in Hawaii, I in Kentucky). We see each other about every 3 years and talk on facebook about once or twice a year. Another friend that I grew up with stopped talking to me after a heated argument. I am still confident in my position but disapointed in my reaction. Lately another friend of mine, who lives out of state, has stopped calling me when she comes to town (which is several times a year). The rare times we talk, she says she misses me and will call the next time she is in town. She never does. I think it's because the last time she was here, I just didn't want to go see her. I couldn't get out of the house; also, my phone calls were less and less. It breaks my heart. I try to find joy in the friendships I do have, especially my best friend, and try not to let it weigh me down. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It sounds like these were not meant to be your friends. Can you go to a local DBSA group? It's a great place to make friends who will clearly understand what you are experiencing.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. While I don't believe anything I say will make this easier, I did want to tell you that you aren't alone and many of us know how you feel right now. Keep your chin up hon ((hugs))

I have no close friends, just those people you pass everyday, probably because I never leave the house but to go to work ...

Even without Bipolar, there are only ever a few people in a lifetime that you can truly call friends. Like everything else, job for life, marriage for life - the concept of friends for life is something that is somewhat outdated in this fast moving disposable world.

Having bipolar makes it that much harder. But like marriage, your better off alone than with the wrong person / friends. I'm sorry that it hurts so much, I can really relate. I make new friends and at times the only thing I can think of is 'how long will this last?" Making new friends also makes me very insecure, which in turn puts its own pressures on the friendship. I guess like has been said already, you enjoy friendships while they last, and the ones that are real friends, they will understand and stick by you, bipolar or not.

xXx

Then they were not true friends. Make new ones. Learn some coping skills and get some therapy, we all need it.

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