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Old Aug 10, 2015, 01:00 PM
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Can a bipolar person live a normal life
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-married,kids
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Old Aug 10, 2015, 08:49 PM
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Yes, Yes , Yes

I wasn't diagnosed until age 43, I already had gotten married , had a child and been living my life.. Being diagnosed helped explain alot of my past. but I have bipolar , its not the end of the world (my opinion) I could be dealing with alot worse things.

Normal? as a friend said that is a setting on a dryer...

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Old Aug 10, 2015, 09:42 PM
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Old Aug 10, 2015, 09:42 PM
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Yes. I'm married, work full-time, and have a three year old daughter.
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Old Aug 10, 2015, 09:53 PM
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Very yes.
I am married, have two children(five and two). A "normal" life is very possible but then again normal is comparative. I don't work now, but have in the past and really as long as the symptoms are managed the bipolar is secondary to my life.
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Old Aug 10, 2015, 10:13 PM
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It took medication to be stable enough to take care of my kids.

I go to school full time
Work full time
I have 3 kids 5,3, 2

It is possible. I just have structure issues with the kids since mine and my husband's schedule doesn't allow us to switch with the kids. Luckily, I have really great in laws and family who take care of them when we can't!

I use to worry about the same thing. It's terrifying sometimes. You can get stable, don't lose hope. If I can do it, so can you!

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Old Aug 11, 2015, 01:59 AM
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Can a bipolar person live a normal life
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-married,kids
do you have any stories to share
I thought so. For years I have tried to work. Its never ended well for me (hospital). I gave hope to many people, telling them it would all be ok.

Recently I was told I definitely should not have children. My entire family and circle of friends agree with this and have gone to great lengths to ensure I do not have children.

Marriage is the next thing... not an option because I cant work. So for starters, I cant afford it. Secondly, that person needs to be my carer also.

I used to be so hopeful. But Im being told over and over that I am far too unstable to ever have the life I wanted, even the a life that I can be content is out of the question.
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 02:39 AM
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From 13-18 everything was all good. Went to school, played sports, worked, had a gf. Then things got harder after 19. Everything got worse. I did manage to get my associate degree but have dropped out of college three times.

Everyone's different. Especially if you have bipolar 1. I think bipolar 2 is more manageable. I'm stable now. And have been for 10months. But I don't work, go to school, have gf. I have no stress. I'm on disability.

I often wonder what will happen when I do go back to work. Or try school again. Or have gf then have another bad break up.

I hate the word "normal". Achieving a normal life right now for me is impossible. I do have this vision that I can be happy and fulfilled. I don't care if it's normal or not. It doesn't matter.


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Old Aug 11, 2015, 09:27 AM
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supanova - Why does everyone keep on telling you things like that? It's so mean! And it doesn't seem very supportive in my opinion. It makes me feel sad that people keep on telling you things like that. Big hugs.
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 09:44 AM
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Oh, and I don't think bp2 is easier to manage than bp1. I think it depends on the person.
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 10:59 AM
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 08:21 PM
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Oh, and I don't think bp2 is easier to manage than bp1. I think it depends on the person.

You might be right. I am just talking from my experience because bipolar 2 don't get full blown mania. But, I do understand they cycle more then bp1. I do stay stable for long periods of time. But, the full-blown manias have destroyed my life.

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Old Aug 11, 2015, 08:26 PM
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define "normal"

Yes, what is normal? The American Dream? Married, 2,3 kids, steady job, white picket fence, large house, upper-middle class, dinners, parties on weekends?

I try not to identify success by having a "normal life"

Changing the way I think of normalcy has helped me.

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Old Aug 11, 2015, 08:55 PM
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I mean once I stabled out on Trileptal I went back to school and graduated, got a good job and bought a house. But I'm still alone and have my issues and not exactly happy all the time. So bipolar is still there despite my white picket fence (that's technically brown).
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 09:01 PM
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What is normal? Everyone's definition of normal varies.
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Old Aug 11, 2015, 09:04 PM
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Old Aug 12, 2015, 04:48 AM
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define "normal"
in my definition- a normal life for a Bipolar person (especially type 1)

-understanding life of the real world (not living in his virtual world)
-doing a job without any difficulties ( poor performance,finish work on time )
-control his life according to his salary
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- take his pills, go to treatments without others help
- think about their responsibility when married

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Old Aug 12, 2015, 06:43 AM
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Of course you can have a normal life with bipolar!!!!!


Just remember to define normal first, because its subjective as hell.
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Old Aug 12, 2015, 07:20 AM
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I used to think so. I had a job and got married and had 4 kids. I'm not saying it's not possible, heck I did it. BUT....what quality of life is more the question. Having a job and having bipolar is extremely difficult IMO. Also, having 4 kids. or kids at all and bipolar presents tons of challenges. Raising kids is only that much harder. and...is having kids 'normal'? I'm not sure.
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Old Aug 12, 2015, 08:48 AM
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I was going to post "my life is totally normal," but then I noted all the crazy things I've done in my life. Hey, at least I'm a grad student... That's normal.. Bipolar and normal life

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Old Aug 12, 2015, 09:30 AM
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Normal? To me that is boring job, vacation in the same exact Croatia resort each year, dressing boring and living boring cause "what would neighbor's say", ignore problems of the society, think IKEA is the last word in design... and lately blame all your problems on immigrants?

I take my own version of insane over that.
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Old Aug 12, 2015, 04:58 PM
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Normal? To me that is boring job, vacation in the same exact Croatia resort each year, dressing boring and living boring cause "what would neighbor's say", ignore problems of the society, think IKEA is the last word in design... and lately blame all your problems on immigrants?

I take my own version of insane over that.
I'm with you, Venuss. I've been stable for five years or so, and it's dull! So am I, for that matter. But at least I've been able to hold down a job and meet my responsibilities. Love to go to a resort in Croatia, btw.
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Old Aug 12, 2015, 05:45 PM
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I'd trade stability for depression or mania any day.
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Old Aug 13, 2015, 03:56 AM
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Can't say I'd want normal, whatever that is!

But you can have a really good quality of life and pursue your own dreams whatever they may be. I'm married, a successful professional and have travelled large portions of the world.
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Old Aug 13, 2015, 04:32 AM
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I'm divorced and on SSDI disability (formerly attorney). I am a good mother, have a great significant other, and I am happy most days. Many people can continue working; I'm not one of those people. My marriage was abusive so it would have ended regardless, having bipolar disorder made it harder to get out, if anything.

I've never been "normal" ... that is a setting on a dryer, like Christina says. lol
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