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Jan 26, 2016, 06:33 PM
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So lately I've been having depression episodes. I am depressed about the way I look and that I'm single. I recently posted on the relationship forum that I'm alone and lonely. My issue is I don't feel great about how I look, which lowers my self confidence, which makes me feel unattractive which makes me cry. I know my therapist many of you guys and a lot of peers say looks doesn't matter and if it does that person shouldn't be for me. However last time I went dating I felt every girl was repulsed by me and didn't have any future dates with most of them. A few I had second dates and then never contacted me again. This probably contributed to my self esteem issues. I'm just really lonely and hopeless right now. My dreams of being married having a family is quickly disappearing and I fear I'm never going to have a relationship let alone a wife or family. I feel like such a loser and in a bad place now.
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Jan 26, 2016, 06:45 PM
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Sorry to hear you're having self esteem issues. Dating and relationships have always been really stressful for me as well, I currently am single and it has been really hard learning to put myself back out there and meeting new people. I sort of swing between periods of really inflated ego and self esteem and self-loathing and insecurity about my looks.
Lately I've been trying to exercise more and stick to a proper diet and I've found that this helps improve my self image quite a bit. I also never feel comfortable bringing these insecurities up during therapy because it feels embarrassing and really awkward :/
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Jan 26, 2016, 06:47 PM
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Working out has been somewhat of an issue cause sometimes I'll have an internal dialogue and when I don't go I convince myself I am no good and don't deserve to go.
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Jan 26, 2016, 07:31 PM
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I just want to give up sometimes.
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Jan 26, 2016, 09:42 PM
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Hello buggie, I just want you to know that couples come in all shapes and sizes and everyone has their taste In the opposite sex and I personally l am attracted to larger men and if you look around there are lots of larger people in marriages and having children. Point is that not everyone likes skinny or small men.JMO
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Jan 26, 2016, 09:54 PM
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I have always felt there is that special someone out there for each and every one of us ... you usually find them when your not looking ... because then your not trying too hard and are just being yourself ... I met mine at 25 thru a group outing ... been 33 years , never loved anyone else ... you will find someone .. when your not looking
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Jan 28, 2016, 05:44 PM
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So talked with my psychologist and she told me to make sure I go out Valentine's Day weekend. She said their should be tons of events and found one on meetup that is a lock and key event. Maybe I'll buy a new outfit for the occasion and hit the gym as hard as I can for next two weeks. She said next session she is going to kick me to go so I don't back out.
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Jan 28, 2016, 06:44 PM
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((Hugs)). Coming from someone that dealt with eating disorders for 13 years now, I totally get it. But you know when I felt my best? Not when the scale was at its lowest, but when I was working out and eating right! I actually had more muscle tone and definition and I was very fit. Have you ever considered excercise a try? It actually helps a lot with depression too. Now I've gotten a bit older, tired from meds, and plain lazy so I feel like **** pretty much every day. Maybe I should start taking my own advice again!
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Jan 28, 2016, 06:48 PM
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I kickbox do martial arts and gym. Lately though I haven't been going.
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Jan 28, 2016, 07:10 PM
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Well keep it up or change it up a bit to hold your interest. Get on a good diet and plenty of sleep. And screw what others think about you. If only we spent less time worrying about what others think right? Back in my social days I hated going out. I'd walk in a bar and THINK everyone was staring. But then you have to learn that a big part of that is your anxiety and low self esteem. Chances are that no one even saw you walk in. It took me a long time to grasp that and get over it. Even now I sometimes take my PRN before I go out in crowds or work. |
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