BP causing relationship problems?

Does your MI cause issues between you and your SO? In my case, absolutely. I told my bf about my BP right from the very beginning but he never believed in it. One time he actually said "it's all in your head". I don't think he actually got it until we started falling apart in the last few months. I fell into a very deep depression and just pretty much stopped caring about us. I put no effort in lately because I'm too exhausted from depression. I've also read in another thread that the divorce rate in which one of the couple have BP is alarming. It really scares me because we plan on getting married but I'm so scared I'm going to mess it all up. I blame myself for all our problems and I feel bad that he has to put up with my dramatics. All I know is that I wouldn't be with myself.

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I've lost SOs because of both mania and depression. either I'm a total *** when I'm manic and drive people away (I know exactly what to say to hurt someone the most) or when I'm depressed and don't want to do anything and they think that's a reflection on them. and the divorce rate for those with BP is alarming (makes me feel hopeless). like you said I wouldn't want to date me either.

I've actually dated another BP I with mixed symptoms (same as me). it was hell, I didn't understand the illness at the time and she didn't tell me she had it till years after we had broken up.

Best of luck to you with your current situation though, but I know exactly where you're coming from and its rough...

Yes, definitely causes issues. Though he says all the right things and I am the ***** I am awful. He really is super great, but I don't think I actually love him. Or rather I can't discern my feelings because I am so different sometimes. We got together before I was dxd. I think when I met him I was hypo. He was there for me during my first major episode and dx, then we were married, he has been there through all of the craziness. This second major episode I have been super awful to him. Telling him I don't think I love him and not sure if I want to stay together, making plans in case we get divorced. I really don't know where I am at or what I want at this point. So yes, my MI def. has an impact.

My husband gets depressed and distant when I'm manic. Which is hard because I try to talk his ear off. My husband is extremely kind to me when I'm depressed. There are many very personal things which have had an effect on our marriage. Some BP related, some not. In spite and sometimes because of bipolar, I feel we share a very good relationship and marriage. Statistics may show 90% fail rate, but 10% of the people defy the odds. Why not assume you'll be one of the minority?

Your boyfriend should be more supportive of you and your illness and I hope you begin to see your worth. You are worthy of being loved. Why would you not date yourself?

Absolutely. My husband has known that I have mental health issues since we met, but things have gotten so bad that we are now doing a trial separation...