[Jaemariie]

I don't know if anyone else has this problem but I can't stick to one thing one minute I'm passionate about being a makeup artist the next week I want to start my own daycare or be a baker then I want to go to school for nursing the next week legal assistant and it's just so inconsistent it's getting on my nerves I don't know how to stop and just focus on that one thing it's messing with my relationship to my bf said I flip flop a lot one minute I like something the next minute I don't or one minute I want to be around him the next I don't

I'm so sorry you are struggling right now. Are you hypo/manic? When I'm manic, it's very hard to settle on an idea..... And I often get ideas to go back to school for this, then that, then some other thing. I worked for 4 years at a cosmetic counter at a high end department store. I worked for one of the cosmetic companies and they trained me on skin care and makeup application. It might be a nice job for you to try and see if you are interested in Makeup artistry. It's a nice stepping stone and good for your resume.

Do you feel depressed when you push your boyfriend away? Or anxious and overwhelmed? We all need alone time now and again, but if you find you are pushing people away often, and that it's a pattern, I recommend getting help for the issue soon. I push people away when I'm depressed and several times in my life, I pushed everyone out and have been alone and that is just not healthy.

Take care of yourself. (((Hugs)))

[Woolly Bugger]

Using proper punctuation would help you calm down and settle on one thing. Other than that, I would just decide not to decide on anything for now and just go with the flow. Things will sort themselves out eventually.

Originally Posted by Jaemariie

I don't know if anyone else has this problem but I can't stick to one thing one minute I'm passionate about being a makeup artist the next week I want to start my own daycare or be a baker then I want to go to school for nursing the next week legal assistant and it's just so inconsistent it's getting on my nerves I don't know how to stop and just focus on that one thing it's messing with my relationship to my bf said I flip flop a lot one minute I like something the next minute I don't or one minute I want to be around him the next I don't

((((((hugs))))))

[Sad Mermaid]

Originally Posted by Woolly Bugger

Using proper punctuation would help you calm down and settle on one thing. Other than that, I would just decide not to decide on anything for now and just go with the flow. Things will sort themselves out eventually.

I think this is priceless advice.

Your wanting this and then that is not really your wanting anything - it is a reflection of internal unrest, turmoil, and lack of stability. Imagine yourself an artist - you would be painting jarring pictures now to portray what is inside, but since you do not have the skill of an artist, your desire to show externally what is a mess internally happens to find an outlet in wanting to be many different things in a quick succession. As long as you do not take those desires seriously and get into an occupation that you will later not enjoy, there is no harm in letting yourself fantasize about being this or that.

It is especially key that you not let into a daycare biz at this state.

MAYBE it would give you some peace to fantasize at length and in writing ("I am a baker. I wake up at 4:30 AM..." etc.)