[SpasticBliss]

Wow. I've been aware of the negative influence my mother has on me still and I'm nearing 50! This is ridiculous. It sucks that I waited this long to do it, but I have to now guide and take control of our conversations.

She is one of the most negative infuences in my life and if she were an acquaintenence I would cut her off and not look back. But she's dear old mom. The mother of all anxiety!

Today I called to tell her some quick, really good news, and I realized she has a total method of taking control of the conversation before I can complete a sentence. Then she'll get bits of my story and digress into something horrible she saw on the news!!! It almost ruined my day. I just wanted to tell someone some good news. That I was having my first really really good day in, I kid you not, in maybe like 8 months.

My life has been a whirlwind of chaos for a while, overlapping events, most of which I had NO control over. But it's over. I'm in a really really good place. I have a few things I'm waiting to happen in my life that will be the icing on the cake.

Waiting is the hardest thing in the world, ever, ever, ever! I hate waiting!!!!

Anyway, all of it, everything above, for tonight, let's just blame it all on my crazy mom. She really did a number on me.

[lacerta]

I hear you. My moms offputting like this as well. So hard to bear when closest person is so hurtful.

[gina_re]

I have mommy issues too which I realized a few months ago. Our codependency wasn't helping. So I'm slowly backing off and just making sure our conversations and visits aren't as often. She just oozes negativity. It's draining and stresses me out because that's my mom and I don't want her to feel this way.

[Standup2me]

Bliss, I am not too sure if you are female or male but I sort of suspect female.
Women are often programmed by society not to interrupt, to respect our parents, and to put our needs last.
When it comes to Mum, forget all of that. It's pure nonsense.
Remember, your needs come first, so interrupt, and if you're getting no respect, don't give any.

[annielovesbacon]

I feel you on this one. It's taken me years to realize how much my mom has negatively impacted me. And you can't just drop her because she's your mother!
I hope you can put space in between the two of you and find peace. Wishing you well!