Saying goodbye. Going to IP

I am so sorry this happened to you. What a time for him to decide to leave. That must feel terrible. Please stay in touch here and let us support you through this. I wish I knew what to say to make all this go away, but sadly that is a super power I do not possess. Sending you hugs and well wishes RXQueen. Be especially kind to yourself right now. (((Hugs)))

He's playing with my head right now saying it's going to be a month till he moves but he is for sure going. But he's sitting here kissing on me like nothing happened. I said "I second I see a uhaul we are done"

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I'm sorry. Did he at least say why? way to kick someone when they're down. I hope the med change helps. Where are you staying? Hope this all calms down. keep checking in please. We care very much for you, stay safe.

He has the right reason I believe. I had been drinking and had a psychotic moment. Blacked out and self harmed while his kids were here

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Wow, good luck to you. Glad u survived this.

He could have left while you were in the hospital, I doubt he'll leave. It's too good of a set up for him. If he has any decency at all he'll not bring the kids over unless he is there, not working and awake to care for them until you've had time to stabilize...no matter how long that takes.

Is this the same guy you were thinking of marrying but your potential MIL hated you? OMG? What crappy timing. What a guy. Sounds like he can't commit. Good thing you found out now rather than years down the road. But how selfish of him to do this NOW. Will he even talk about it or is his mind made up? Last thing you need right now. No kissing with all that **** if it was me. And what you did when the kids were there is because you are ILL. Did the IP help at all? What a mess. I am so so sorry. Big hugs from Crazy Cat Lady in England.

Yup. And I swallowed a bunch of pills in front of them. My heart stopped at the hospital. I wish I wouldn't of woken up.

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I'm glad you're still here. Can you go stay with friends or family? Being there isn't helping you.

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through all this at once.

It's weird. He just said he'll give it a month. His kids can't come here so he'll barely ever see me. This is going to be a mess

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what do you want? Do you know (I wouldn't)?

If you're sober why can't the kids be there? I'm so sorry all this is happening.

I guess I have to prove to him I can be sober. I was drinking pretty bad there for a few weeks but he enables me. He buys the ****.

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I deserve all of this. What i did was so horrible. I'm embarrassed and I understand why I can't be by his kids.

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You don't deserve this. You have a few illnesses that interacted and caught you but that doesn't mean you deserve this. You just have to find a different way to ensure sobriety and treat the bipolar more effectively. Which is a lot to do. It's not easy what you have to do but you can do it.

Don't let him put the guilt trip on you.

We've spent the day arguing. He expects us to live seperate houses but stay together and leave me with no income!! I told him the min the uhaul pulls up then it's over

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You are applying for SSDI right? Can you apply for welfare while you wait for that to come though? It's not much but it should help you hang on the your condo.

RX I am so sorry that you are going through this, my probably soon to be ex wife asked for a similar unrealistic living situation from me. I can't imagine how hard that must be. Have you asked him to really listen to you and your point of view. I know one thing that I have learned in the last year is that it takes work to really listen to your partner.

Yes I've been begging him to research more on my Illnesses... Why he shouldn't bring home alcohol etc. He keeps bringing up the horrible stuff I did that night but he was hitting me too. He says it was self defense and I said "you don't hit a woman back, you restrain them". Who knows maybe I'm in the wrong and expect too much. I did this to myself. It's me who broke up the family. But he expects us to live in seperate homes when he's been my only income since I lost my job due to my illness. I said I'm not going to be with someone who wants to sit back and watch me lose everything

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My wife asked me for a divorce when I was inpatient last time after a SA. I asked her for 6 months in marriage counseling, she agreed and we are 5 months in. Just last week she requested that we talk about "the day". the thing is I just started to talk about it with my T. I told her and our T that I am just starting to work on it personally and I need more time. We will see if that sticks this week.

The thing is, it is hard to explain to others what was going on in your head when that happened. I have tried to explain it to my therapist even and I can't spit it out. And she's trained to listen. It is a hard task, to relate to Muggles.

Yea. From my convos with social workers and T's IP they told me I need a trauma therapist for my PTSD. I still have yet to start t. Im going to call my assigned T tomorrow and make an appointment. I'm going to ask down the line of my bf can join in on a session for sure.

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This must be a very confusing and difficult time for everyone -- for you, for your bf and for the children. You'd described the mutual attachment between you and the children in past posts. Has to be a tough time for all.

It's possible NAMI might be helpful either via support groups and/or family education?


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