How not to be needy?

When I am under allot of stress, I can become very needy. This not only includes help from others, but I end up with a need for approval from those in my life. This is an old problem of mine. It surfaces its ugly head in my day to day survival. When I do not receive this approval from others, I can feel that something is wrong with me. Like I do not have enough to worry about and deal with in my life right now.

Anyone have this problem? What do you do about it?

I can be that way. I have been trying to get better via therapy--and when I become aware that I am seeking affirmation from others, I give myself a good talking to.

I seem needy with my gf and actually need her because shes the main thing in my life that brings solitude to my life

I think we all deserve support ... but, yes, I get needy with my S.O. If I'm very stressed or mentally unwell. Or, if there's a conflict at hand. I'm conflict-avoidant.

I used to be much more confident and independent before bipolar disorder and my anxiety disorders. Nowadays, I liken myself to a frightened bunny rabbit. In flight mode.

I get needy when I'm really depressed. I cling to my husband quite a bit. But when I'm stable I can be without him around. I've learned in therapy that the empty feeling is something nobody can fill, though, and I have to fill it myself. So I'm still working on it.

I get needy like that, too. I'm not equipped to ask for what I need, so I just endure. I know that's not the answer you're looking for, but sometimes, for some of us, there are no answers.

I had this issue big time yesterday!! I'm still working on how to get through those moments, somehow I mucked my way through the day though. Hugs to you

I can relate, especially lately. I over analyze things, such as my flaws and fear rejection will occur for saying or doing certain things, when there turns out to be no real basis for this most of the time. Sometimes I rely way too much on certain individuals for my own happiness.

What helps sometimes is when I shift my focus away from others and onto things, such as reading, things that make me laugh, getting lost in a show, youtube, netflix, meditation, exercise....basically having "me" time. Catch yourself when you are being too hard on yourself.

Be kind to yourself, rather than your own worst enemy. That is something I must continue working on. Also, I try not to focus on my cell phone as much.