[boogiesmash]

I just started to feel low, because this weekend I have nothing to do. No beach trip, no BBQ, no gatherings. Home alone or working. This is not what I want to be doing. I'm finding that my trouble is that I can't change. I've been adopting this habit of just staying in bed. Most of you know that. Even on good days I'm in bed. My workouts have been dismal. I started planning on hopes of looking better and have failed. I want to look better in two months for my vacation even though I have nothing planned or probably won't. I'm 37. I don't know how this bed habit has happened but I can't shake it. This has been going on for a year and a half. I've talked to my t and pdoc. We've gone over strategies, planning and med changes. Although I've usually been feeling fine, I can't shake this habit. What do I need to do ?

[Wild Coyote]

You have probably already tried what I am about to suggest.

Force yourself out of bed and stay away from your bed until a set time in the evening. Hang out elsewhere.

Think it might work?

WC

[boogiesmash]

I try but usually (sometimes I'm successful) I cancel my plans and end up in bed. It's like a mental block. Something I can't get passed and don't know what it is. I've had this block in other aspects of my life and it is usually for Kung fu. I love Kung fu but I usually cancel and don't go. I have no routine other than going to bed.

[lilypup]

I have a couch problem and staying in pajamas all day. I am on SSDI so I don't have to work.
I do go to family events, yoga, doctor's appointments, and meetings with friends and a few chores. But other than that, I am basically on my trusty couch.
My friend from my bipolar support group calls it "couching it". As in, "Hey, I am couching it today!"

[boogiesmash]

I don't know how to overcome it. It's killing me. I can't live like this.

[Wild Coyote]

I am having a similar problem. If I don't have something important to do, I go rest on my bed. I can also use the TV or my laptop there.

If I had a nice recliner, I might hang out there.

I'm sorry I do not have the solution.
I think it's do it or not?


WC

[Sunflower123]

If one of us had a pill for this problem which seems to afflict so many of us, we'd be richer than Bill Gates. I'm going to make an honest, determined attempt to turn this around tonight and tomorrow. I'll let you know how I do. Good luck and best wishes.

I'm either in my bed or my recliner. I spent some years in bed due to illness and once I was able I forced myself into the living room recliner. It's not much better but it's something. I do cleaning when I'm feeling well. I don't feel well enough to get cleaning done satisfactorily so it's like pissing in the wind around here. I keep trying. I can't plan activities because my house needs the attention most. I ponder all this from my recliner. Sitting here with a migraine from hell right now and hoping I'll be able to sleep some more soon. Good luck getting out of that bed and doing things which bring you joy.

[~Christina]

Do the exact opposite of what you want to do , yes it's hard and it sucks rabid money balls

For one week do this, it can make a change.

Bipolar sure can super suck at times.

The only thing that is an absolute certainty.... Bipolar cycles it ALWAYS cycles.

((( hugs )))

[wildflowerchild25]

I agree with christina. Opposite action! Set up something to do out of your bed. Maybe do something on your own, like I've been thinking about going hiking with my son, maybe you can do something that doesn't involve other people so you're not so anxious. You have to get out of your head and just do what doesn't feel natural. I know, easier said than done. I have faith in you boogie!

[hopeless2015]

I just keep trying an so should you boogie. It's hard I know

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Do the exact opposite of what you want to do , yes it's hard and it sucks rabid money balls

For one week do this, it can make a change.

Bipolar sure can super suck at times.

The only thing that is an absolute certainty.... Bipolar cycles it ALWAYS cycles.

((( hugs )))

Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25

I agree with christina. Opposite action! Set up something to do out of your bed. Maybe do something on your own, like I've been thinking about going hiking with my son, maybe you can do something that doesn't involve other people so you're not so anxious. You have to get out of your head and just do what doesn't feel natural. I know, easier said than done. I have faith in you boogie!

Opposite action, a friend mentioned that. Dbt tactic. How do I encompass it?

[bioChE]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

Opposite action, a friend mentioned that. Dbt tactic. How do I encompass it?

Really, that's all there is to it. This is a concise description of a few emotions, things we normally feel like doing, and their opposites. I know it's easier said than done, but it really does change your emotional state when you get over the hump and just do it.

[boogiesmash]

Thanks bioche. Any other tips people try? I want to live!!