Sexuality

Just wondering if you talk about your sexuality with your T. Whether you're gay or straight. (You don't have to tell me)

Wondering if I should be open about it.

I'm married, most assume I'm straight but I'm bi and lean more towards girls. I just happend to fall in love with a guy.

No. I'm straight and I don't talk to my T about it. I've talked about my past boyfriends before, but I'm not interested in dating right now, so I don't talk anything dating/sex related. But I guess if things changed dating wise, then sure.

But IMO, if you struggle with anything related to your sexuality and you need help with whatever it is, then I think it's worthwhile to bring it up in therapy. Therapists will not judge you for who you are or what your sexuality is. And even though we live in a world full of hate, we all deserve to be happy, confident, and proud. So do what you need to do to get the help you need.

Both my doctors know I'm gay. I'm pretty sure my pdoc is too but I haven't asked him.

Thanks everyone. It is something for me that I don't have anyone else to talk to about, so I might bring it up.

I haven't discussed it, but it isn't an issue for me at this point in my life. I've been with my husband for 14 years. I did have some relations with girls before we got married, but I identify as straight. I would discuss it in therapy if it were an issue for me.

I've been hypomanic this spring and think about sex A LOT. I am straight and lost my husband almost a year ago, so I wonder if my sexuality is just waking up again even though I'm not ready for a new relationship and may never be. I did 'fess up to my pdoc that I've been having these frequent fantasies (and the need to get rid of them by any means necessary, if you know what I mean). I've never been this frank with a pdoc or anyone else for that matter, and I felt surprisingly better after talking to him. So yes, I think it's good to be open and talk to your pdoc or T about sexual matters. They are a healthy part of life and we all have them.

No. I never have. If you feel like you need to you should.

This is a great topic to share with a therapist.
My pdoc (therapist) and I talk about sexuality.
I hope you can allow yourself to open up and to share with your therapist.


WC

I've never talked about this with my tdoc or pdoc. Since I came out of that horrendous 20 year marriage, I've been pretty asexual. I'm going to bring this up with my therapist today. Thanks for bringing it up. Best wishes.

Both my T and pdoc know I am a lesbian. They both mention my wife on occasion but nothing beyond that unless I bring it up.

The degree to which a T (or a pdoc) allocates therapy time to this aspect of our lives, often depends upon whether or not we are experiencing any conflicts (or dysphoria) about our own sexuality (and/or gender).


WC

I forgot to bring it up with my tdoc. If I'm not worried about it and I'm not hurting anybody...does it matter? After reading some of the posts here, I feel strange. Best wishes.

If you are just fine and no inner conflict (no anxiety or concern), then there's nothing to cover in therapy.

Some pdocs/tdocs ask about sexual interest as a part of assessing mood.


WC

I've been married for a while and my husband attends my sessions. We have talked about sex with my T before. He's been around the field for a considerable amount of time, and I'm sure he's heard a lot.

Right now out sex life is nil but it hasn't been a problem. I think it's because we're both on meds that kill libido, plus there are physical issues.

Yes I have.... I use to think I was gay but I have now came to the conclusion that I am Asexual. We spoke about this as I was manic and was going through wanting sex but when the idea of it came to I was freaking out. I have spoken to my Therapist a bit about this. Although we have never delved into it