[SheilaKathy]

I Don't Take Criticism or Rejection Well!

I spoke to my therapist about this and she said that most folks don't take these things well. So I am not alone. I rejoiced in knowing this.

Sometimes when someone criticizes me, they later get some feelings of guilt about it or something and try to make up for it. Sometimes that works, and sometimes it does not. Sometimes the damage has already been done and there is no turning back for me. I can forgive, but I will not forget. Also, trying to pick up the pieces after the damage has been done is sometimes just not possible. Negativity breeds more negativity and it just snowballs. That is when to cut my losses and run.

So if you don't take criticism or rejection well, don't fret. You are not alone!

[Miss Laura]

I'm the worst at taking rejection badly. I recently finished with my Psychologist through what I believe is my own fault. I have felt miserable since Tues. My worker says I feel rejected..... tbh I really do. I think this sounds ridiculous. I'm a grown woman who should be able to take rejection well

Sometimes I take these things well and sometimes I don't. It depends on if I respect the opinions and honesty of the person giving the criticism and what there motivation is. If someone is being honest with me, even if my initial reaction is to become defensive, I usually see their intent and can grow from the experience. If their motivation is to criticize to inflate their own ego, I'm less likely to take it to heart or respect it. I'm a pretty forgiving person overall as I find most people to be highly flawed and prone to error. But I have my boiling point like most people for sure.

[Fuzzybear]

I maybe win the gold star award for not taking criticism and rejection well, especially if I somewhat trusted the person

[Guiness187055]

I'm really bad about both of them also.

[ldymia]

I am terrible about this. Someone came down on me almost a year ago. And I keep trying to make it better, even tho the other person ended our friendship. I hate to disappoint people and it tears me up when I do. And to top it off I'm a "fixer" so all I want to do is fix the situation.

[UpDownAround]

Criticism I can handle; it is usually 2 way communications. Rejection is like criticism, but with only one way communication. I can't put a positive spin on rejection.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by ElsaMars

Sometimes I take these things well and sometimes I don't. It depends on if I respect the opinions and honesty of the person giving the criticism and what there motivation is. If someone is being honest with me, even if my initial reaction is to become defensive, I usually see their intent and can grow from the experience. If their motivation is to criticize to inflate their own ego, I'm less likely to take it to heart or respect it. I'm a pretty forgiving person overall as I find most people to be highly flawed and prone to error. But I have my boiling point like most people for sure.

Well expressed. Thank you!


WC

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by ElsaMars

Sometimes I take these things well and sometimes I don't. It depends on if I respect the opinions and honesty of the person giving the criticism and what there motivation is. If someone is being honest with me, even if my initial reaction is to become defensive, I usually see their intent and can grow from the experience. If their motivation is to criticize to inflate their own ego, I'm less likely to take it to heart or respect it. I'm a pretty forgiving person overall as I find most people to be highly flawed and prone to error. But I have my boiling point like most people for sure.

Great post! I agree with Wild Coyote

(((( ElsaMars )))) thank you

[Shazerac]

You are not alone in this. If not taking rejection or criticism well was an Olympic sport I would have a gold medal.

[Unrigged64072835]

Definitely not alone in this. After being rejected by certain family members as a child, I hardly ever take either well. I just want to bawl my eyes out. Even as a middle-aged adult I still find it hard.

[bukowski06]

I think it depends on the person who is delivering the criticism or rejection. How much do you value that person's opinion? Criticism or rejection are based on a person's subjective opinion or their perception of your abilities and in now ways indicates fact.
Once I figured that it's been a lot easier to accept criticism or rejection.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by UpDownAround

Criticism I can handle; it is usually 2 way communications. Rejection is like criticism, but with only one way communication. I can't put a positive spin on rejection.

I agree with this. Criticism I deal pretty well with. I have abandonment issues so rejection...not so much. I tend not to put myself in positions where I'll be rejected which limits me.

[SheilaKathy]

Originally Posted by bukowski06

I think it depends on the person who is delivering the criticism or rejection. How much do you value that person's opinion? Criticism or rejection are based on a person's subjective opinion or their perception of your abilities and in now ways indicates fact.
Once I figured that it's been a lot easier to accept criticism or rejection.

Well, today it came rapid fire from 3 people. All negative, (not here on this forum) from folks I was looking for some support from. Other days, of late, it has come from the same place, but from different people there. I don't know if it is me, if I am expecting too much from people, or what. However, it had been a place where I could pretty well expect to receive support in the past and have been receiving it for quite some time (like about 5 years). So I am disappointed and confused too.

I'm just not sure what to do, but I am thinking of staying away from there for awhile, if not forever. Over the last many months there, things have gotten less and less supportive, less understanding and in general, for me, much more uncomfortable.