[UpDownAround]

I try hard not to let myself slip into the low key sulk and it occurs to me that I have some disappointments that I am really not processing even though I really need to. Not dwell on them, but in some cases get closure and in others think about possible solutions even if that leads to having to take a stressful action. I keep kicking the can down the road because looking in the can is not going to be fun. I am not sure if I am making sense or not. I sometimes think my fear of getting depressed keeps me from working through unpleasant situations. Letting them fester is no better.

[99fairies]

Facing your emotions, accepting them because they are just a passing feeling. Sit with it, accept it and let it pass. It works better than holding it all in and avoid feeling uncomfortable or afraid.

[UpDownAround]

Originally Posted by 99fairies

Facing your emotions, accepting them because they are just a passing feeling. Sit with it, accept it and let it pass. It works better than holding it all in and avoid feeling uncomfortable or afraid.

The problem is that one of the biggest disappointments (marital problems) is likely to result in incredible stress if I address it or continued disappointment if I don't. So it isn't just a "let it pass" disappointment. Frustrations with how a couple of my kids are turning out is one I do need to let go. They are basically young adults now and I really can't change the course of their lives at this point. But I think about these things and get despondent and put them out of my mind because it feels so much like depression. It's one of the reasons I used drink while depressed.

I read something on the Internet the other day that was super helpful. It said (I'm paraphrasing here), lay with the pain, own it, and then let it go. Interpret it the way you want, but I don't know. I thought it was helpful.

I hear ya. That sounds very hard.

The only thing I can think of to say is that sometimes when I don't know what to do, it helps to talk. Talk to us, or break down the first chunk with someone by talking to that person about a piece of it to see what to do. Or talk to a therapist

[UpDownAround]

Oh, my t has heard all of it and more. I think my posts about it are as much "note to self" as anything else. Sometimes I type up posts on things that bug me and never post them.

I can relate very much to your post and problem. I too have things I must face and overcome but I truly don't know how or if it's even possible. The advise I get isn't working and doing nothing is not working. Some of the issues are so big and terrorizing that I'm unsure there is even a solution other than waiting to die. But perhaps there is one and I will keep searching. I hope you find ways to overcome this.

[NatsukiKuga]

Plus, you know what?

To heck with 'em