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This has probably been asked, but I wanted to ask it in regards to me.
I've been recently trying to date ever since everything calmed down after a mixed state. Another thing to note is I have not dated for three years prior to this. I've been able to go on a few dates, and a good amount of times I find myself very bored with the people I'm going out with. I'm very good at making it look like I'm having a good time after years of practice, but I feel like I'm just not connecting to people. It's painful to go through this multiple times because I do want to be able to find a person I can be with. I'm just starting to get burned out. I also don't feel rejected by the people I go on the date with because I'm usually the one who says I don't want to continue any further. Last bit of information is that all these dates come from online dating websites. I don't know if my feelings have something to do with being Bipolar or something else. What I really want to ask is how have others gone about dating with being Bipolar?
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I was diagnosed BP after I was with my Husband ... Now mind you I had BIpolar since about 6 just never diagnosed.
I saw just keep going out and meeting people combin online and through friends. Dont let Bipolar tell you cant have a realtionship and it be a great one. Where in Tennessee? I live Middle southern , In Florida for a year but I miss my home up there.
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I have a problem with perfectionism—do you have this? I’ve been told I’m a black and white thinker too. I don’t think these are bipolar symptoms. I also suspect I have personality disorder, but I am not certain which one since I have elements of a few, but mostly BPD. I suspect that more than bipolar for my problems liking people.
I do that thing where I put someone on a pedestal, then the next thing you know, I can’t stand them |
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I'm originally from McMinnville, TN.
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I do have a perfectionist problem. It's probably why I became a programmer because how much I like perfection in my life. That could be a problem, because in the past if I can't control. Then I feel like my world is in threatened, but I think that is something that would happen if I was in a relationship.
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Sometimes it can be hard...
I've been single for 6 months after coming out of a long-term relationship. He broke up with me for being "crazy". I dread the fact that I would have to start all over again and get to know someone from the beginning because I'm such an introvert. But for now I'm just working on myself, trying to decontaminate myself from the last relationship. When I feel comfortable I'll start going out more and maybe meet someone. |
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Middle Southern Tennessee here too. I wanted to wish you good luck with your dating pursuits. Sending big hugs.
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I’m kind of in the same boat. My husband died a little over two years ago. At the beginning of the summer I had a casual fling with a man and That made me realize I was ready to start dating again. But now I have this huge secret that I have to carry around. I have no idea when to reveal. Do you do it in the beginning, so they can run off before you get attached? Do you wait, to show them you’re pretty much normal (I’ve been stable for awhile)? I don’t know. I can’t even wear short sleeves in front of a date because of the self injury scars.
Right now I’m talking to someone. I’ve been on three dates with him. He has revealed that he has seasonal affective disorder, bad enough that he takes an antidepressant throughout the winter. He’s suffering from depression right now. So maaaaaaaybe he will be understanding when I reveal bipolar. But maybe not. I’m not going to bother until I know where this is going, but if we end up agreeing to exclusivity, I’m gonna have to tell him. Anyway good luck with the dating scene. It’s tough no matter what!
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I haven't gone on a date since my diagnosis 2 yrs ago, but if it were the other way around (i.e., my partner is the one with bipolar, not me), I would probably want to know by the end of the 2nd or 3rd date if the relationship is pretty serious. But if the relationship is casual or semi-serious, then it's not a huge deal if we wait a few more dates. My ex-boyfriend waited until the 6th date to tell me that
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So he basically hinted at some PTSD because he talked about how cars freaked him out. I knew it was a hard thing to talk about, so I wasn't upset that he withheld it. THat's why I think there's a little leeway with sharing bipolar diagnoses. I think people can be really understanding about those things... and you know you've found a gem if the person is willing and able to understand you. Everyone is different, though. Just sharing my preferences because everyone is different. |
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I just got to the point of getting comfortable with dating again after three years, and I know that it takes a while to work on yourself. Also I hate that someone called you "crazy". Many people are ignorant to the fact of how it feels. I was like that at one point in time.
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You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.
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