[jtassar93]

Honestly I’ve never cussed before. It makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable. I express my anger in more destructive ways.

Everyone around here screams curse words toward me and belittles me with them. My brother is only 15 and just started to do the same. He’s not a very nice or understanding person to begin with. And now he just spews hate about everything while cussing.

I know people tend to start in high school to be cool but it just seems like he’s too young. It really hits me hard how mean he is to me with words. Not to mention if god forbid he loses his temper he gets physically abusive. That’s not as bad though.

I have no problem reading cuss words but saying them out loud just feels wrong. Odd?

[FallDuskTrain]

Not at all. I feel similar.
I find it very nasty and trashy. Cursing is the lowest way of expressing anger. I strongly dislike it and I feel very uncomfortable.

[cowboy87]

I use alot of profanity. My P-Doc says it has to do with high intelligence. He told me people who use profanity frequently are more intlligent. Its usally because I use it to discriminate when im being serious and when im not. If i am mentoring or teach (adults) I use it for humor because I find it helps make complex things sticks. But to answer your question? No. I think it is a cviliized and nonconfrontational. But I do know when to shut it off and not to use it.

[jtassar93]

So I guess I show little signs of intelligence it seems..

[Cornucopia]

Originally Posted by jtassar93

So I guess I show little signs of intelligence it seems..

I am very intelligent- have been tested- and never curse

I don't care what others do, and like you I am able to read it. I just don't like doing it myself. I think it is something depending on several things, whether people do it or not.

[jtassar93]

Originally Posted by Cornucopia

I am very intelligent- have been tested- and never curse

I don't care what others do, and like you I am able to read it. I just don't like doing it myself. I think it is something depending on several things, whether people do it or not.

Yeah it doesn't bother me in conversations. I've been told I don't curse because I have fear from it from being emotionally abused from it. Who knows.

[emgreen]

As I've aged my swearing has really been curtailed. It just sounds crude to me...though I will swear if I hit my finger with a hammer, or something. There's no excuse, however, for taking the kind of verbal abuse you're describing. If your brother ever does engage in physical abuse, call the freakin' cops! His future girlfriend or wife will thank you. Folks who engage in physical abuse when they're young often display that kind of disgusting behavior when they get older. Actually, the kind of verbal abuse you describe can hurt as much as physical abuse (except in a different way). So, no...You're not odd. I hope your situation improves soon.

[wiretwister]

I have been told I am very "intelligent" by a psychologist ... maybe I am maybe not ... I catch myself cussing more than I like ... I always feel bad as it means I lost control ... I started as a youth I believe as a way to keep people at arms length ... I can ( and have been very violent before ) .. cussing to me was my way of saying it's getting serious for me so back off ... as I have aged it has slowed greatly and now is more a habit than a protective device ... though it still is a way to keep people at arms length ... I have seen my son get so mad ( mostly at himself ) that I really wish he would cuss as I believe it would help him let go of the anger that now he just carries with him ... so I see both sides ... I feel it can serve a useful purpose ... what I wish was that no one would ever have a ( reason ) to use it for whatever reason ... my story ... I can not know or understand your story from your perspective ... but I wish you peace and love .... Tigger

[Unhinged88]

You aren't weird for not swearing. I think its good. Kids these days, I hear them as young as 10 swearing like a sailor. And even though I swear, a lot...its not anything that a kid should be doing. And i don't think it has anything to do with intelligence. Its all just personal preference. Maybe when I am a less angry person, older, I will swear less. Who knows.

Originally Posted by jtassar93

So I guess I show little signs of intelligence it seems..

Nah, you're not.

I've never heard of cussing (or lack thereof) being related to intelligence. People who cuss choose to cuss; it's a restraint thing. So choices don't make people smart or dumb. For example, I don't think I'm dumb, yet I make stupid decisions when manic. I even make stupid decisions when depressed because I'm in a "just leave me alone" mood and will do anything to make people leave me alone. That doesn't mean I'm dumb; it means I have poor restraint.

Having restraint is good. I think it makes you smart and aware.

There are smart people who cuss, and smart people who don't cuss. There are dumb people who cuss, and dumb people who don't cuss. There is no "one size fits all" here. I say do what you feel comfortable with, and allow others to do what they feel comfortable with. I myself do swear occasionally, but not in every second sentence.

[Victoria'smom]

I swear when I'm mad. I never swear out side of home.

[Wild Coyote]

You are not weird, nor do you lack intelligence.

I, personally, feel the individuals showing some restraint have more resources to cope and to communicate in a constructive manner, and tend to be more thoughtful towards others.

Maybe you have some "class," which is seen as a positive trait in our society.


WC

[WildcatVet]

I pretty much keep it private...except when I'm using it descriptively with my therapist. I don't mean shouting profanities just using it as a part of speech.
BTW, everybody is weird in their own special, unique way. That's how you can tell humans apart.

[Unrigged64072835]

I don't swear much. It's a holdover from being a young mom. I have descriptive terms to replace them though. And it doesn't matter: my daughter cusses a lot with her friends. She still uses the replacement phrases around me sometimes.

Be comfortable being you.

[Pookyl]

No you aren’t weird and no you don’t lack intelligence.
English is my second language and I was always told to use ‘real’ words not swear words.
I do swear when I’m unwell which my DH thinks is a helpful ‘clue’ regarding my mental state.

[~Christina]

I curse at times over a variety of reasons BUT ..... I can choose not to.

For instance over the 6 years of Therapy I never once used a curse word , I feel it’s disrespectful to a T and using other words to express how I feel/felt helped me heal.

Yesterday unpacking my kitchen stuff I cut myself really bad. I said all kinds of words, ugh

Using or not using curse words has nothing to do with being intelligent or not.

Please keep yourself safe.