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Jan 21, 2018, 12:50 PM
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The woman I used to have physical interactions with here at the gym came to me again today. I told her no last time, that I don't want a relationship with her and it's not going to happen and I'm sorry. She approached me again today. She could not have looked more manic. I'd never paid attention to that before but now it all makes sense. Very obvious! I asked,
"Are you bipolar? You look manic?" "Yes and yes" "That explains a whole lot. I don't mean that you're bad for having bipolar, because I do too." "Then you want sex?" "No. I'm sorry. I also don't want a relationship with you. I was using you for just sex but realized that you went way beyond that agreement. You started wanting to date and get to know each other. I'm not like that right now and I can't do this any more. I'm changing again." "So you're just going to f--- me and that's it?" "No. I already told you. I did f--- you and that is it. It's over." She looks very angry at this point. Fiery redhead anger! I start backing away toward the doors. "You used me!" "That was the agreement. You knew this from the beginning. It was only for an outlet. That's all it ever was." "To you, a--h----! I started to really like you!" "I know. But, I didn't start to really like you. It didn't happen. It's not going to. I'm sorry." She took a swing at me, nearly getting me in-between the eyes. I turned my head just enough to move the destination of the blow but not the strike entirely. Hard in the left ear! I stumbled back and shook my head a little, and felt very unstable on my feet. I caught another blow, this time in the gut. She hits hard! She cussed me for a while more until someone else came over and said something, but I couldn't hear them well with my ear ringing like that. Someone else saw this second hit and came over. She left the gym, running out of the door. The other person asked what looked like "are you ok?" and I nodded. I was getting my hearing back at this point. "Girlfriend?" "Nope. Close. But nope. Just sex." "You used her for just a hookup?" "Yeah. A few times." "And she didn't kill you?" "The hell?" "I've never had sex with someone I didn't love. Ever." "That used to be me too. I think it was a better policy" They flipped me off and walked away. Got what I deserved. |
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Jan 21, 2018, 12:59 PM
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Sounds a bit unrealistic to me, especially with today's society being more and more open to casual hookups. Both the reaction of the woman and the second individual I feel were not deserved, if things went exactly how you typed. Your memory is very good, I have a hard time remembering conversations that happened just 5 minutes ago!
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:03 PM
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:10 PM
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Yes, SorryShaped;
I am sorry this happened but I always tell my guy friends... be careful when you sleep around. Some women turn crazy very quickly. Just don’t contribute to it. It is may be time for you to start evaluating your behavior and the consequences. On another note, I am sorry that once again you have been accused of making things up... just ignore that very unsupportive comment.
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:17 PM
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The whole casual sex thing can only remain casual for so long before one wants more than the other. She was getting attached. And you said no, ended it when feelings got involved on her end. Sounds like she always wanted more from the beginning even if she said otherwise. It was a pretty over the top reaction to have not wanted more.
I don't do relationships myself. So I naturally relate to your side.
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:18 PM
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Doesn't matter if they believe me.
I'm working on changing my self because I'm not happy with who I am. I can be a better me. I totally deserved the hits. I only hope that's the end of it. Lesson learned. |
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:21 PM
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My ex kind of trapped me in by being fwb |
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:41 PM
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My apologies if it came across as unsupportive.
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:44 PM
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:15 PM
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You didn't deserve any of that. You were upfront about what you wanted and that's all that can be expected.
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:21 PM
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At least you were honest and didn't just ghost her.
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:30 PM
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I did deserve it. She started getting all tfwo a while back and I knew what was happening. I could see it happening and kept going anyway as long as I could get what I wanted. I used this woman. That is very wrong! I can however now stop running it through my head a million times about how I'll get rid of her. That should have done it. I was an ***. I admit it. I'm ok with recognizing it was always a mistake. I'll probably beat myself up over it mentally for a while but that's my process that I also need to change. I think getting out of this was good for me and I hope for her, but it's not my problem any way it goes about her.
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:41 PM
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If you were clear that you didn't want a relationship, her feelings are on her. She had no right to attack you. We'll just have to agree to disagree that you deserved it. Lol.
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:42 PM
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:51 PM
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You are stubborn and impossible to argue with. (Teasing).
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Jan 21, 2018, 02:52 PM
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