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Old Apr 24, 2018, 08:37 AM
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One thing I’d like to warn you about is that sometimes when we experience personal growth we can get negative reactions from those around us. It’s probably because we aren’t acting like our “usual selves.”

I love my husband but he learned passive aggression from his family of origin. It drives him crazy when I don’t buy into it.

Example: we have a cat and out of the blue he’ll demand to know where the cat is. (Translation; go find the cat.) this morning we had the following conversation.

Hubman: where’s the cat
Me: don’t know
Hubman: well when was the last time you saw him
Me: last night when he stuck his big hairy a@@ in my face.
Hubman: well what if he got out:
Me: so what if he did? (He can’t get out of the yard)
Hubman: well I’m naked, go find him.
Me: if you want to know where he is, put some clothes on and look for him.
Husband: slams door, comes out clothed and thrashes around the yard and finds the cat.
Husband: you don’t care about the cat!
Me: I do care, but I don’t have the words to express how much I don’t care where he is every moment of the day. I support his right to be a cat.
Hubman: are you ok? Have you taken your Meds? You seem cranky. (Tranlastion; you didn’t buy into my bullish!t and I don’t like that.)

Just a day in a life.
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Old Apr 24, 2018, 08:59 AM
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PA ppl are horrible. I sympathize. My mother is always PA. I always have to put together what she's telling me by the things she doesn't say.

Then I come off as the asshole when I just state what she wants and say 'yes' or 'no'.
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Old Apr 24, 2018, 09:13 AM
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You support his right to be a cat. MEOW!!! Love that. Sorry about your communication troubles though, that's annoying, I know.
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Old Apr 24, 2018, 11:36 AM
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You'd do well writing a blog... or cartoons!
Thanks for the laugh!

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Old Apr 24, 2018, 12:12 PM
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Bwahaha! You have made my day

Great way to deal with his nonsense..
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Old Apr 24, 2018, 12:24 PM
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Oh my that sounds like me and my hubby. I am the one wanting to know where the cats are. lol
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Old Apr 24, 2018, 05:49 PM
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I was just going to say the same thing, I was always the one who wanted to know where the cats were. LOL.
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Old Apr 25, 2018, 08:00 AM
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I was just going to say the same thing, I was always the one who wanted to know where the cats were. LOL.
LOL well maybe now you have an insight on how others view their relationship with Kitty friends. I admire cat’s independence and I figure “hey if he wants to hide and sleep under the bed or up the top of the closet all day....who am I to harsh his buzz? “
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Old Apr 25, 2018, 08:12 AM
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"Hubman" LOL! Good laugh to start the day.

"You don't care about the cat!" Wha??? Yeah, been there (not with cat, but with hearing twisted PA logic. Outta left field it is...)
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Old Apr 25, 2018, 02:39 PM
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My last relationship was like that. Glad that I don't have to deal with it now.
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Old Apr 25, 2018, 03:54 PM
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Ugh I just went through this yesterday.......without the questions about how I'm feeling. Just the browbeating and no snappy replies by me. Just cowering.
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