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Aug 04, 2018, 06:22 PM
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Today is my 14th wedding anniversary. I never dreamed I'd ever get married (and stay married so long), much less want a kid one day, but such is life.
I met my husband pm an early onine dating site, I almost deleted his PM, but I kept it. Later, I read over it and thought, "This guy sounds interesting. He doesn't want to take me to a bar, restaurant, or movie but swing dancing. I messaged him back, saying Ok, but I don't know a thing about swing dancing. I didn't hear from him and thought he had lost interest in me. A couple weeks later, he sent me a PM. He had gone to California for Christmas vacation to visit his family, and his parents didn't have internet. I don't even know what made me keep his PM, just meant to be, guess. He came in the marriage knowing i had mental health issues, diagnosed with major depression, not bipolar at that time and ED-NOS (a defunct diagnosis now, but it means eating disorder not otherwise specified. We've had our ups and downs like most couples. bult ultimately, so many times, he doesn't realize it's been him or my daughter stopping me from making a terrible mistake or even just self-harm because I didn't want to have to explain it to him or my daughter. It was a whirlwind tomanade type thing. Within 2 weeks of meeting him it felt like I'd never not had him in my life. We got engaged around year later and then married about about a year after that. The stress of planning a wedding wa too much for me, so we finally eloped and married in San Bernadino Mountains in California. I wouldn't do it differently even if given the chance. it's so weird to think that if I had deleted a PM, my life would so different right, and my daughter wouldn't even exist. I have been so lucky my husband has stuck with me through BP and an eating disorder (I had a very bad relapse of that around 2015), and panic attacks even though he does not have mental health issues or always understand. Even when we argue about it, he listens my side, and I think he tries to imagine what I'm going through even though he can't possibly know. No one knows unless you have walked in those shoes. Sorry for any typos. I am having the blurry vision problem again.
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#2
Aug 04, 2018, 06:25 PM
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Happy Anniversary!
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Bipolar 1, PTSD, GAD, OCD. Clozapine 250 mg, Emsam 12 mg/day patch, topamax 25 mg, ,Gabapentin 1600 mg & 100-2 PRN,. 2.5 mg clonazepam., 75 mg Seroquel and 12.5 mg PRNx2 daily |
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Aug 04, 2018, 06:42 PM
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Happy anniversary.
Mine is the 8th. 25 years.
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Aug 04, 2018, 07:23 PM
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HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!
 WC
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Aug 04, 2018, 10:34 PM
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Happy anniversary and congratulations on finding your best friend.
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Aug 05, 2018, 08:35 AM
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Happy anniversary to you and your husband!
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* Dx: Bipolar II (finally, after years at Bipolar NOS) * Rx: minimal dose of Lamictal My avatar picture is a photo of the Whirlpool Galaxy I took in April 2023. I dedicated this photo to my sister who passed away in July 2016. |
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Aug 05, 2018, 10:40 AM
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~*~ Happy Anniversary! ~*~ Are you doing anything special?
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Aug 05, 2018, 10:46 AM
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Aug 05, 2018, 03:24 PM
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Happy anniversary!
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Aug 06, 2018, 12:26 AM
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Happy anniversary!
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***** Every finger in the room is pointing at me I want to spit in their faces then I get afraid of what that could bring I got a bowling ball in my stomach I got a desert in my mouth Figures that my courage would choose to sell out now Tori Amos ~ Crucify Dx: Schizoaffective Disorder |
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Aug 06, 2018, 05:16 AM
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Congrats to you!
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Aug 06, 2018, 07:35 AM
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I met my current husband on adultfriendfinder. I was blogging about my dates and he was posting his opinions... which agreed with mine, so I PMd him.
We played hide and seek message wise for a little bit, then talked, then dated, then moved in together three months after dating. It's been twelve years, ten of it married. |
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Aug 06, 2018, 01:35 PM
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Happy Anniversary
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Aug 07, 2018, 12:39 AM
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Happy Anniversary!
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Aug 07, 2018, 02:35 AM
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May you stay married for as long as you are happy. Congrats in the consistentsy.!!.
My 1st and 2nd lasted 12 years each. My actual, 28 yrs and counting. Be Much Happy!!!!! Cheers.
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]Roses are red. Violets are blue.[ Look for the positive in the negative. PIRILON. If lemons fall from the sky, make lemonade. Unknown. Nothing stronger than habit. Victor Hugo. You are the slave of what you say, and the master of what you keep. Unknown. Last edited by sabby; Aug 07, 2018 at 01:09 PM. |
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Aug 07, 2018, 04:02 AM
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Thanks everyone for the wishes! We had a wonderful anniversary
It's hard to believe it's been 14 years already.
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Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD Seroquel, Cymbalta, propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, lamotrigine, hydroxyzine, There's a crack in everything. That is how the light gets in. --Leonard Cohen |
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Aug 07, 2018, 09:53 PM
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Happy anniversary!
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Aug 07, 2018, 10:31 PM
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Glad to hear your news. Happy belated anniversary! (My hubby and I are both bipolar and we'll have our 30th anniversary on August 30th!)
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Aug 07, 2018, 11:03 PM
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I cold called my wife and asked her for a date after my father suggested my mom wanted me out of the house.
 . My wife lived around the corner and we never spoke a word to each other in the 15 years I lived there. You and I share the same cosmic spouse - my wife puts up with a lot from me. While my BP is much better than it used to be, I still tend to act erratically and rant and rave on occasion. We've been married for 24 years. I honestly can't believe we made it this far. Happy anniversary to you, Sister cln1812.
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Aug 08, 2018, 12:35 AM
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Congratulations ! This love story you wrote is a delight.
Many more years of love and happiness. Take care |
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Aug 08, 2018, 02:28 AM
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This is good news! 14 years? My own marriage lasted only a couple years when I was in my early twenties. I am 59 now. So I still have a chance for a marriage to last 14 years! Who knows? Anything is possible, right?
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Dx: Bipolar I, ADD, GAD. Rx: Fluoxetine, Buproprion, Olanzapine, Lamictal, and Strattera. |
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