I'm drowning

without a lifeline in sight...My son is having mental health issues. In a nutshell without the yucky details he is experiencing severe anxiety mostly about school with irrational negative and fearful thoughts. I have no idea how to help him. Trying to talk to him only seems to make it worse. I upset him so much tonight that he didnt even want to hug and kiss me goodnight.

It is effecting me so badly that I'm taking FMLA from work starting on the 4th, since my job is a hot mess and horrible source of stress right now too. I am doing all things you are supposed to do. Therapy for him, found a psychiatrist for him which he was supposed see tomorrow for his initial visit but the doc got food poisoning. They will call me to reschedule tomorrow.

To make it even better, my Mom found a mass in her remaining breast on Friday. We just went through 2 years of breast cancer hell (she lives with me and we have no other family left). Was told in late december she was in remission. We asked to have both breasts removed and were told it wasnt necessary as the other breast was clear. Kicking ourselves for not pushing harder.

I'm trying so hard to hang on and not lose it. I am a ****ing mess. I don't know how any of us will make it and it's pretty much up to me. I have the pdoc on Friday. I'm just going to ask for any and all drugs he thinks I need to get through this. I was trying so hard to keep meds to a minimum but I give up.

Big thanks if you even made it through this pity party. It's a really bad night.

Many hugs to you!!! You will make it through this hard time and things will get better. It sounds like you are taking the necessary steps to get help for yourself and for your son. I will be sending you prayers/best wishes and love, hoping you will have some rejuvenating sleep tonight.

You are just getting slammed from all sides

Make sure your Pdoc knows just how bad you are. More meds might help , it has for me.

Keep posting and get it out

That's a lot to cope with!

My mom lives with me, too. She has needed several medical procedures, including two hip replacements. She has developed a life-threatening infection in the last one. The infection has been going on for 9 months now.
it is being kept under control right now with massive amounts of daily antibiotics. It has been one crisis after another, late nights in the ER and late night emergency surgery, etc. It's exhausting! All of this just to say: you are not alone.

Keep on venting/posting.
We are here to support you.

I hope your mom will be okay!
Love and prayers for you and for yours,


WC

Thank you guys. I don't typically post about my own struggles but I'm starting to wonder exactly who I pissed off karma wise and had to get it out. Thanks for reading and the supportive words.

FWIW, we're going through this very thing with our teenage son. Had to keep him home today, in fact.

Ha...yeah, we always joked that the never-ending problems with our son was God balancing the equation on account our other son is doing so well - honors, sports, clubs, self-sufficient, personality yadda, yadda...


The people down the road from us have perfect lives, perfect kids, must be helped by a well-off parent cause I don't think they work 10 hours a week between the two of them, no worries, no diseases and no heart, no compassion for others. So smug, so judgemental...

If anything, suffering enables us to have compassion for others.


Maybe its even a requirement.

Wishing ya the best!

saw my pdoc today ... all he could say was don't give up ... and that is all I can say ... just don't give up .... Tigger.