[boogiesmash]

I don’t know how well this will work, but how about a thread to let go of things holding us back/down. When I was in iop they said you sometimes have to forgive several times but to let go of past trauma. I found myself yesterday and today thinking about the past b s I suffered at work and got angry about it.

So I want to let go and forgive what my coworker that put me through when I was getting the job I wanted.

I let go of my other coworkers, who instead of supported me, mocked me during my iop time.

I hope I’m doing this right.

[DechanDawa]

Letting go of expecting people will change...

[wildflowerchild25]

I’m letting go of expecting my life to be perfect with no mood fluctuations. I’m also letting go of expecting meds to do everything for me.

[Movingon69]

I grew up with a dad who verbally, extensively physically, and inflicted some sexual abuse on me. I'm a Christian and believe the verse that say honor you mother and father. I think that verse is more about living a life that would honor them, but I still had a hard time forgiving him. I kept a relationship going when the kids were born in case he wanted a relationship with them, although I never left him alone with them. He was lukewarm about his relationships then blew up when my oldest daughter didn't ask him to perform her wedding. I cut ties with him then. Even as a Christian I had a very hard time forgiving him. He did come to see our house, which we customed built and is beautiful. He was so controlling that when I decided to marry my husband who came from a family not considered worthy in his eyes my dad told my husband he'd never be able to afford my makeup. When he wanted to come to see the house he was diagnosed with a fatal illness. I agreed to have him over. 1) I was hoping he would take responsibility and ask for forgiveness and 2) I wanted to show him my husband is able to afford much more than my makeup. I didn't get the apology. When he went on hospice I made the decision to go see him not out of love for him but as human decency and I knew I needed to try to forgive him, not for himself but for me. I went. I fed him ice cream. I helped him drink cokes. I just sat and visited. I walked out of his house having found the forgiveness I needed. It was a huge weight off my shoulders. I never got a phone call that told me when he passed away and they scheduled the memorial service for when I was out of the country on vacation. It didn't bother me as much as it would have earlier.

I have recently been betrayed by some people I thought were friends. It is so new that I'm struggling with forgiveness. I even go to church with one of them. I'm praying to help me forgive them. Hopefully, I will get there.

This is a great thread BTW. Thanks for starting it.

[Blueberrybook]

I am slowly trying to let go of a bad to no relationship with my father. Now that I know more about mental health, I really think he is at the end of the autism spectrum with Asperger's and that has colored his personality so much - why he was so focused on me learning physics and mechanics, calling English and fictional books (my personal love) a waste of time, angry and yelling a lot because we didn't agree with his opinions.

Everyone who meets him and speaks with him knows in 2 minutes flat that he is not an ordinary person.

So I would like to let go of my anger at him for the lack of a positive male role model in my life, for the constant verbal abuse and the physical abuse as well.

Many things out of his control color his views on life and his opinions being so strong, he feels everyone who doesn't believe as he does is a complete idiot.

I would like to have a relationship with my father, and he has gotten somewhat better as he's gotten older (he's 64 years old now), but I don't know if that will ever happen with his trying personality and even now that I understand why he is the way he is.

[Christopher1990]

I want to let go of marijuana forever. I don't need it I don't want it

[pirilin]

I will never let go of having abandoned my father. God on earth.
What a piece of crap of a son he brought into this world.

[torqu3w73nch]

I.......I don't let go.
#crying
Ever.
Of anything.
I'm almost fifty, and I've got one that I deal with every dammed day since I was seven years old. That's just one example...
#continuesCrying
My whole life is about to crash and burn and I cannot let things go long enough to save it. Job, home, all of it.
Any ideas?

[*Laurie*]

I'm letting go of the belief that I can do without medication. I'm also letting go of the feeling that I have to precisely fit into one diagnostic category of mental illness.

Thank you for this thread, boogie.

Wow such a great thought provoking forum. I'm letting go of the hurt from my past job. The deception and all other emotions I feel. I let go of my mother not accepting my diagnosis. I'm letting go of feeling guilty and embarrassed by having bipolar.

Letting go of trying to control everything and being ashamed of my imperfections.

I'm letting go of my abandonment issues. My dad left because he was a depressed alcoholic. I was a kid and it wasnt my fault. Not everyone will leave me and if they do, I'll be okay.

I'm letting go of the inner clock that insists I will die at the same ages my parents did, which is fast approaching.

I'm letting go of thinking I have to hold on to every friendship.

I'm letting go of comparing my body to others at pole class. I've gained some weight from meds. I've also had kids. Guess what? I can still hang off a pole like nobody's business.

This thread was such a great idea idea. It’s a good reminder of the junk we carry around that is doing us no good.