Not sure what to feel...

Possible trigger warning!

So I have this friend I've known for 8 years. It's been a good friendship. I helped him get a job at my company. Good dude who I care about.

This morning he didnt show up for work. We speculated halfheartedly that he might be in jail for DUI or something. After a couple hours we find out he IS in jail, but it's for attempted homocide. I guess he ate acid and really lost his mind and attacked his roommate.

I know he has been struggling mentally for a while now, but this is just so out of the blue. I just don't know how to feel and could use some support. Thanks.

That's a pretty harsh change to go through; take care of yourself.

I don’t know what to say. I’m so sorry.

Take your time in responding to the situation. You must do whatever is involved in taking care of yourself first, as only you can take care of yourself. You likely have many different feelings. Sort through them.

Keep yourself and your loved ones safe. Go from there.

I, too, am very sorry you find yourself in this situation.


WC

Hi Trey,

I'm sorry that all of this happened. It is unfortunate that he had issues and felt the need to turn to drugs to solve them. It sounds like he struggled a lot with his demons.

As for how you feel? It sounds like you are overwhelmed with emotion and are trying to comprehend what happened. It sounds like you are maybe looking for answers that you do not have at the moment?

Try your best to find ways to distract yourself, be it a movie, Netflix, YouTube, drawing, coloring, etc.. All of this happened so quickly that I can imagine no one would have answers right away. That's why I think distractions are the key.

Good luck.

Thanks all. I'm not doing terrible, just in a severe state of shock maybe? It's just hard to reconcile the timid kindness of my friend with the brutality of the attack. I know he has been suffering mentally, and my boss and I have been trying to get him to accept help, but instead he was on this kick where he would take a bunch of LSD and "treat" himself. He's been doing it regularly for a couple years and I guess saturday night after he ate 10 hits he snapped and started stabbing his roommate.

My friend now has 7 felonies including attempted homicide and due to his 50k cash only bail he won't be out for a while. I may never see him again. I am really afraid that when the gravity of the situation hits him he may take his own life.

So yeah, sorry for the ramble. I'm just trying to wrap my head around the whole situation. Thanks for letting me spew forth on the subject.

This is so sad, Treyfrancis. I feel bad for all involved. It goes to show what drugs can do to people. They are bad news! I know that my drinking in the long ago past put me, and surely others in dangerous situations.

Trey, You are welcomed to vent away. This all must be very shocking to you.
We are here to support you.


WC

Wow. That is a tough situation. I don't know what I'd feel. Anger maybe at making bad choices and not giving conventional help a chance. I think I'd be in shock too. Maybe you will have to do something similar to going through stages of grief?

Hugs to you.

I think there is no typical reaction to news like this. Likely you will bounce around in emotions for a while. Is there any possibility you could go visit him in prison? Only of course if that is not detrimental to your own well being. I had a relative in prison and I wrote them letters. That is a possibility. A way to support your friend and maintain the relationship. Again, only if it is healthy for you.

I never though about it, but it could be similar to the 5 stages of grief. Very interesting viewpoint. Also, I'm on the fence about going to see him. I've seen his mental health slip and after he refused my help so many times I kind of had to distance myself from him over the past year simply for my own mental wellbeing.

I guess the biggest emotonal conundrum I'm facing is reconciling the very kind and gentle and giving friend I know with the brutality of his attack. He fired four rounds into the ground and then stabbed one of his best friends 20 times. I guess I still am just in shock from it all.

Again, thanks for letting me vent on here and for the support.