[Tucson]

My relations with my “adopted” family has been strained. My daughter has resorted to calling me “dumbass”. My ex girlfriend, the mother of my daughter, now ignores me for the most part. She had a boyfriend. It must be a cultural thing. Her brother, who thought of me as his “step father”, told me he does not want me over to his house anymore. He does not live there. My daughter and her baby lives there. Her brother thinks I am inept with everything, unable to make good decisions for my daughter in some cases. The only person who has treated me with respect is my daughter’s sister. No one has much respect for me. Maybe this is because I am on disability? Maybe because of my MI? Maybe they have never considered me a part of my family? Maybe because I have come across as ignorant and helpless? So I think I will stay away from them for awhile. I do not need this crazy family in my life right now. It is a bit much.

[luvyrself]

I think you are totally right to pull back from them. Totallytoxic. I have done the same . I did not go to my son’splace in San Diego for Thanksgiving. I did FaceTime w my little grandsons and did the what am I thankful for tradition going around the table w the extended family. I have my created family of my bff herentown and all of you here who totally get it. I am mentoring a guy backfromIraq w ptsd.
Tucson, isn’t there a good support group close to you,esp one for bipolars, tho they are rare. I had a glorious holiday once having people over who understood my issues.

[jaysmotogp]

Sorry to hear, that is a mess.
I don't want to tell you to leave family, but i had similar issues when i was young, and so I left home(two weeks before my 17th birthday) and never looked back.
I do have family, but its mostly in laws and friends i consider family.
The point is, if its bad enough, something can always be done, and sometimes that means distancing yourself from certain people, even if they're family

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're struggling, Tucson I think you're doing a good thing by cutting contacts with them for a while. Life is already hard enough, we don't need more toxicity in my life. Unfortunately our family usually has a big impact on our lives. I hope things will get better for you soon. Try to hang on to the people who love you. Feel free to share and vent here. We'll listen to what you have to say. We care about you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

I'm so sorry you're dealing with such family issues. It would horrible if they judged you because of your disability. That's just plain mean.

I hope you don't put up with your daughter calling you names. Perhaps the other members of your "family" can get away with it, but your daughter needs to know that such talk to a parent is not appropriate. Especially if you're not in the habit of such name calling. Don't get me wrong, I have grievances against my dad and show anger towards him occasionally, but I'd never call him a bad name...at least not to his face.

[Wild Coyote]

Some family situations are tough. I am sorry you are going through this. It all sounds disrespectful and very hurtful.

I think taking a break from them may be helpful. Maybe get some distance and think things over?

From your past posts, it has always sounded like you have put your best foot forward for your family. I've always been impressed by your caring so much for them. So I am very sorry to read of how they have been treating you.

Please take care.

WC

[Tucson]

Thank you all! You have given me good advice by taking a time out with them for a period of time. I tried to tell my alleged stepson on that he is important to me. All he did was call me “gay”. I guess I will no be seeing him for awhile. I cannot let myself lose sleep over this. They also think I am not capable about many things. So they have been treating me accordingly.