[~Christina]

We all struggle with stress of course but we often have just a slew of nonstop stressors that seem resistant to so many coping skills.

My stressor is overthinking everything to the degree I can make myself physically sick.

You ? Go !

[Wild Coyote]

Great idea for a thread, ~Christina!

Just one of my stressors is obsessing about issues I cannot change.
I use the Serenity Prayer, yet I still have difficulty shutting those thoughts down!


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[Faltering]

I turn little problems into huge deals and allow myself to become stressed and have meltdowns over it.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Great idea for a thread, ~Christina!


Just one of my stressors is obsessing about issues I cannot change.

I use the Serenity Prayer, yet I still have difficulty shutting those thoughts down!




WC

Thank you ! I can understand that

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Faltering

I turn little problems into huge deals and allow myself to become stressed and have meltdowns over it.

So understandable, sorry it’s your struggle.

I have trouble ealking away when something's not going right (think like a project, or cooking), then go ballistic. I've been learning to walk away. It was actually my exBF that got me working on that, and it really does help! (The little voice in my head would be saying things line, "dammit, you SHOULD be able to do this!" "You idiot!" Etc.)

[Pookyl]

I also over think about things until the anxiety makes me want to vomit.

[SorryShaped]

My low self worth is pretty damaging. I constantly have to tell myself it will be ok, then I'm mad at myself for it not being ok when I said it would be.. I overthink, and overbuild, and it's overtly overwhelming.

[eye2797]

I would have to say that mine is overthinking about my mood, how I feel or what is going to happen with it. It takes me over a lot.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Innerzone

I have trouble ealking away when something's not going right (think like a project, or cooking), then go ballistic. I've been learning to walk away. It was actually my exBF that got me working on that, and it really does help! (The little voice in my head would be saying things line, "dammit, you SHOULD be able to do this!" "You idiot!" Etc.)

I also have trouble walking away at times in my life and had to make amends.

Your Ex did help you a lot with that , good something came from him lol

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Pookyl

I also over think about things until the anxiety makes me want to vomit.

I so relate I’m sorry you also can get that bad

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

My low self worth is pretty damaging. I constantly have to tell myself it will be ok, then I'm mad at myself for it not being ok when I said it would be.. I overthink, and overbuild, and it's overtly overwhelming.

Yes our self worth can effect every part of our life. Now thinking about it I struggle too.

Thank you for this , I’m sure so many can relate.

I hope you find ways to be kind to yourself :sadhug)

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by eye2797

I would have to say that mine is overthinking about my mood, how I feel or what is going to happen with it. It takes me over a lot.

Certainly overwhelming , like where to start to change it ?? I haven’t a clue , I hope you find a place to start

Sometimes I start doing the woulda shoulda coulda ruminations--hindsight is 20/20. I have to accept that I can't go back, only deal with the present and do better at recognizing opportune moments when they present...

[Moose72]

I also over think things and get scenarios in my head that might happen so that I believe they WILL or HAVE happened. I guess that's like catastrophizing.

I also ruminate abouit how my life is "ruined".

[BipolaRNurse]

Ugh, me too. I tend to catastrophize even when things are going well and the "what-ifs" start up ("what if I lose my $#!+ during the holidays when all the family's here? They'll think I'm crazy and want me to go to the hospital, and I don't want to be in the hospital over the holidays"). I've gotten better about it in recent times, but it still raises its ugly head every now and again.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Nowinners

Sometimes I start doing the woulda shoulda coulda ruminations--hindsight is 20/20. I have to accept that I can't go back, only deal with the present and do better at recognizing opportune moments when they present...

Yes it’s a big struggle, I often wish I could fast forward through a few things.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Moose72

I also over think things and get scenarios in my head that might happen so that I believe they WILL or HAVE happened. I guess that's like catastrophizing.

I also ruminate abouit how my life is "ruined".

I’m sorry you also struggle with this too

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by BipolaRNurse

Ugh, me too. I tend to catastrophize even when things are going well and the "what-ifs" start up ("what if I lose my $#!+ during the holidays when all the family's here? They'll think I'm crazy and want me to go to the hospital, and I don't want to be in the hospital over the holidays"). I've gotten better about it in recent times, but it still raises its ugly head every now and again.

Yes the holidays !!!! We are always in Florida seeing the kids and I’m in a state of “ omg keep my shyt together I can’t need IP while gone out of state”

I understand exactly what your saying

Maybe one day we will both give ourselves a break ?

[Nammu]

I do the catastrophizing too. Every car on the road has a drunk driver in it, I worry about that a lot. But they stayed on their side of the road today. That stress was so unnecessary and all in my head.

[Miss Laura]

Just cause it's the season and all no matter how many coping strategies I have I cant get over the stressors for Christmas and New Year's. I'm deflated by 27th Dec then I bounce into a Tigger like mode from Hogmanany (31st Dec) then I'm depressed 2nd Jan onwards.

Other stressors are

Town centre
Public transport
Taking an item back to a shop to return it

I have loads but they are my top 5

I am in the new year going to be starting Exposure therapy. No idea what I'm getting myself into tbh!

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Nammu

I do the catastrophizing too. Every car on the road has a drunk driver in it, I worry about that a lot. But they stayed on their side of the road today. That stress was so unnecessary and all in my head.

I’m sorry you struggle but I do understand it. It’s hard to not think about other drivers , drunk , on phones talking and texting or just being careless.

[Unrigged64072835]

Money is pretty much an ongoing stressor for me. Also getting older and things not working like they used to.

I do the catastrophic thinking at times, but now I just let go until my logical mind has planned everything out. I’m not as emotionally attached to it.

Getting involved more in hobbies I can do has been helpful. As long as my brain is occupied figuring things out it seems to help.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Just cause it's the season and all no matter how many coping strategies I have I cant get over the stressors for Christmas and New Year's. I'm deflated by 27th Dec then I bounce into a Tigger like mode from Hogmanany (31st Dec) then I'm depressed 2nd Jan onwards.

Other stressors are

Town centre
Public transport
Taking an item back to a shop to return it

I have loads but they are my top 5

I am in the new year going to be starting Exposure therapy. No idea what I'm getting myself into tbh!

Yes all that stressful stuff is awful.

I have found exposure therapy very helpful on a few topics/ problems.

[Wild Coyote]

Money is becoming a bigger stressor.

Lots of BIG bills lately. A huge deductible after Jan. 1st. ($3500.00)

Uggh!


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