39 and single

Going to be 39 next year and never imagined I’d be single at this point. 10 years ago my life was so good and didn’t have a problem finding a girlfriend. Now this will be my 7th New Years single and without anyone. I don’t even know how to approach a lady let alone dating. My thought have improved and I want to say that’s pathetic (old thought pattern). Now I don’t know how to label it. Bad hand in life, recovering from depression I don’t know. However it’s not the life I want to live. But I don’t know how to approach anymore.

I'm single too, but for the most part, happy about it

I mean sometimes I wonder I guess, what it would be like to have someone in my life that close, but I'm drawn back in to reality and realise that A I couldn't deal with the closeness, B I'm a boring individual, and C the only friends I have are doors windows and other non movable objects

I miss closeness.

I'm soon to be 34 and I'm in the same boat as you. But for me I'm scared to let people see the real me. I haven't had a boyfriend in 10 years and sex in about 10 1/2-11 years. I'm ok with this but like you I miss the closeness I miss cuddling etc

At this point I wanted to have kids house, be married. None of that has happened since I lost my dream job and been depressed since then. I feel as if I have no purpose and need to find purpose. But I still want the family picture. And not to jump ahead girlfriend first.

I'm so sorry, boogiesmash I know how you feel. Please don't give up. It doesn't have to stay this way forever. I think you can still find the right person for you... many people meet their soulmate when they're 40 or older. So there's always hope. I think you need to work on yourself first though. Learn to be happy with yourself, find a purpose, maybe some hobbies. I know it's not easy, but I believe that's important before getting involved in any relationship. You can do this! Feel free to share and vent here. I'll listen to what you have to say. I care about you. Sending many hugs to you

I’m 48 and just met someone wonderful. It does happen. And you have plenty of time. Do your best to get happy with yourself first and then good things can happen.

it's sad that I don't know what that feels like

both on a relationship level and a family level

no idea what it feels like to be wanted

I hate to say this, but I often wonder



that's away from the forum. I know I have you all

Just remember "Four legs good, two legs bad,"
(Not condoning bestiality here)

44 and divorced, happily (mostly)

I’ve had those thoughts and also what is the point.

My family and friends are still having kids well in their 40's. It is possible.

I’m about to be 32 and I too am
Single. And I’m a virgin. I feel I’m destined to always be alone.

Your not destined to be alone. When you are least expecting it the right one will find you.

Yeah people say that.

The last time I allowed myself to
Eve like someone he led me
On

I’m toxic and out of control....a non-relationship kind of material. The way people are treated by me through my mental condition is one of what I would not like to have to deal with myself. I can see my crazy. So by staying single, I’m doing the world a favor. Just saying this and coming to terms with it has cemented it in. I’m damaged goods with a ton of baggage. (Even though some of the Others might disagree)...

There is a line from Rent I like, “Life’s too short, baby. Time is flying. I’m looking for baggage that goes with mine.” Everyone has baggage and if I wait until I have dealt completely with mine, it’ll be too late. My future partner can take me as I am, and I will take him as he is.

Too old to list my age here but I feel the same. Most depressing is that I rarely meet anyone at all lately I am interested in at all... or if I do they are younger than me and don't really expect things to progress. If I just met ONE person who I thought was great -- just one-- I would be so much happier. But everyone I meet, just so disappointing.

I am 36 and have always been single. I tried online dating, but most of the guys are either interested in casual sex or a long-term relationship. I realized I didn't want either. I like my independence too much for a long-term relationship. So I deleted all the dating apps and now i feel much better. I have my cat and friends and that's all I need.

Hoping 2019 is your year of finding someone special.

Everyone here is great, truly. You all recognize what you need, or don't need. It's up to you to decide when it's time to go for it