[BoomerMudcat]

My close friends have become more distant, my normal friends don’t ever ask me to hangout anymore, when I ask its always no followed by an excuse. At the end of the day, I know it has been my fault. I have come to terms that i do not need people in my life to give me joy, i have other things i can do. I love to read and play piano and drums, and exercising. Maybe its better to be isolated because I can get better at the things i enjoy? Im just sick of feeling unwanted by every single person i talk to, it is starting to take a toll on me, thanks for reading.

[sarahsweets]

Hi @BoomerMudcat- Have you ever directly asked your friends why they do not want to hang out? I mean beyond whatever lame excuse have you said something like " You never seem to want to hang out, are we not friends anymore?" I dont know if you would get an honest answer but its better trying this instead of guessing and wondering.

Originally Posted by BoomerMudcat

My close friends have become more distant, my normal friends don’t ever ask me to hangout anymore, when I ask its always no followed by an excuse. At the end of the day, I know it has been my fault.

What makes you say it is your fault? Did you do something or have a fight?

I have come to terms that i do not need people in my life to give me joy, i have other things i can do. I love to read and play piano and drums, and exercising. Maybe its better to be isolated because I can get better at the things i enjoy? Im just sick of feeling unwanted by every single person i talk to, it is starting to take a toll on me, thanks for reading.

I do not agree that you do not need people in the sense that yes, learning to find joy in your life independent of people is healthy- many people cant deal with any alone time. But I do not think it means that you are better off without people. I understand that you are hurt though. Do you have any online friends?

[Miss Laura]

I'm the same my friends have all left me... I guess it's down to having bipolar I have always had trouble with relationships. Only ones I keep is with my family and that's cause they come back no matter what.

My friend didn't tell me she was pregnant until she was close to showing but told our mutual friend who we are close with. Then she didn't tell me when she gave birth. I found out 10 days later cause I texted her as she was 3 weeks over due and i hadn't heard a peep. Yet our mutual friend knew straight away and have seen the baby i haven't and he is 4 months old now.

My friend took me to see Kylie yet hasn't spoken to me in 3 months despite me emailing and texting her.

My other 2 friends are useless they don't care about me.

I feel so lonely no-one cares about me. But I put a front on just to keep myself above water.

[BipolarWolf]

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

I'm the same my friends have all left me... I guess it's down to having bipolar I have always had trouble with relationships. Only ones I keep is with my family and that's cause they come back no matter what.

My friend didn't tell me she was pregnant until she was close to showing but told our mutual friend who we are close with. Then she didn't tell me when she gave birth. I found out 10 days later cause I texted her as she was 3 weeks over due and i hadn't heard a peep. Yet our mutual friend knew straight away and have seen the baby i haven't and he is 4 months old now.

My friend took me to see Kylie yet hasn't spoken to me in 3 months despite me emailing and texting her.

My other 2 friends are useless they don't care about me.

I feel so lonely no-one cares about me. But I put a front on just to keep myself above water.

I can relate. I lost my so called friends a long time ago and just never wanted to really put myself out there again. At first it was devastating to me, then as time went on. I realized I had to really invest in myself and to get "well". Which, is a struggle sometimes. I am introverted and only associate with family and the people here on PC. Also my treatment team, if that counts. I found that I wasn't healthy enough to be influenced by other peoples choices and their lives. Instead, I have spent a lot of time reading, investing time in my son, my treatment, pills, and my family.

We only have the moment, that is all we can control. We cannot control other people or their choices and lifestyles. I am not sure that this will be this way forever, but I think it is grounding lifestyle. It's ok to not be ok. If time is what you need. I think that you should absolutely invest in yourself and your own wishes. Instead of those of other people.

[bpcyclist]

Just wanted to say that I am right there with you guys. I can go weeks without a text or a call or an email. It's just the way that it is. I'm dealing with it.

[unicornlady]

I have also had a lot of friends bail on me. In some ways, I blame them for being too weak to handle me, in other ways, I totally understand. I'm glad you have activities you enjoy. Maybe that is enough for you - it is not enough for me. I have reached out to people again and again until finally a few stuck around and have become valued friends of mine. Try not to beat yourself up over these friends of yours ditching you. I hate to sound cliche, but if they're not willing to stick around, they're not worth it. Maybe you'll find someone who is willing - I have. Or maybe you'll be happy alone. Just find what's right for you. I'm sorry your close friends are being like that.