Think my boyfriend is going to break up with me

We had a nasty conversation today. I wanted to go to Canada with him to visit his family this xmas. He had said as much a couple weeks ago on the phone saying "I wish I could take you to Canada but you don't have a passport," and later saying that he'd put in his email that I "might" be coming. Now he got angry at me and ignored every attempt I made to start the discussion again in a rational way- I basically told him that my passport had arrived today, after I went and got one after our discussion. He'd say "We already discussed that and I don't want to talk about it again." Basically he said he's met my family, but I can't meet his because they would frown on me because we're not married (but they know who I am) AND then he went on to say that he's moving back to Canada at some point and there is no way in the world I could go with him. So he's back himself into a mental corner and refuses to talk to me now! The best part, though, is that he'd like our relationship to stay- as he put it- in this box where I want it to be "up here". He's just happy with me as a girlfriend and hey- have sex, 3 years already, no reasonable end in sight and then he moves off to Canada in 3 years or whatever. Nice. I can't believe I got attached to someone like this! I take his daughter out shopping and let her drive my car, took her to the secretary of state to renew her driving permit, etc. and sometimes we do stuff with my kids too. Then he has the gaul to tell me something about my version of love is infatuation not love... preaching to me. So either he breaks up with me or I break up with him. THREE YEARS!!! I can't just wait around and have sex with someone until he decides he is going to move to another country. What's the point???

Well, its 4:30 a.m. and I'm still up. Had a big glass of irish creme and feel dehydrated. I know I'll waste tomorrow sleeping in.....

With all the snow we are getting right now in MI, sleeping in is ok. Since I personallly suck at relationships, I have only hugs to offer you.

Actually, its 8:00 and I feel fine. Like I had a great night's sleep! We're all snowed in- schools all closed and a snow emergency- which means a grand day with my *#*#*% mom complaining and critisicing me and my kids at every step.

Us too--except my mom, who lives 6 miles away, thinks that I, with bald tires on my minivan, can make it down unplowed roads to the cowpath that they live on, and up their looooong driveway to bring the girls to her. Umm, hellooooo, dad owns a 4 wheel drive pickup, a 4 wheeler and a snowmobile--come get them! I am so sorry you are so stressed right now. Your boyfriends actions are definately odd--and rude! Sending you warm hugs and thoughts.

After a bit going back and forth, we're doing fine now. I told dBF that I feel like I'm just waiting around for him to leave for Canada permanantly, meanwhile I'm just for sex and movies. That got him to get the point.

I spent part of the weekend with BF. I took his daughter out shopping and we wrapped presents for hours at my place. Been trying to organize all the get-toethers with all the families- my dad's in town and isn't happy about my choices all the time. But, kids n I are going to my sister's to hang out and exchange gifts the 23rd and spend the night. She wants us to spend all of the 24th there too. The 25th we'll wake up at my mom's for Santa and then later that day I'm goingn to Canada with BF. His daughter will be elsewhere. He's not too happy about that. I have to pack and wrap Dbf's few presents for him tomorrow, take his daughter to work, do stuff with the kids and whatever else. He keeps saying he hates christmas- when it gets overwhelming for him, I think. But I've had a great time sitting with my kids by the fire, watching tv with them.... I'm not sure how long we will be in Canada. I'm thinking the kids will be with their dad while I'm away but I haven't been able to get ahold of him, but that's how it usually goes during xmas break.

I am glad that you worked things out.
sounds like you are enjoying the holidays.
good for you!
beth

. I am in mi too and this weather is killing me. Trapped at my parents house with no car an hour away from my home. Will it ever end