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May 27, 2009, 06:19 AM
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He ****ing pissses me off. I ask him to do one little thing for me and the prick cant even do that. He has to go away for a few days for work so i get all his clothes washed dried and packed ready to go also had his dinner ready to go when he wanted it and i ask him can you please change our sons bum and he ****s off and goes to bed. Im sick and tired of doing everything for him with no appreciation and he cant do one petty little thing for me! Its not even for me its for his son but no too ****ing lazy to do anything! All he ever thinks about is himself. I dont even know if im posting this in the right place! Sorry for the language people
 
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May 27, 2009, 11:21 AM
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Rachie,
 You should try and take some time away from him, if you have somewhere to go for a few day's, let him see what it's like without you. And try telling him if he doesn't smarten up that your going to leave. I bet he'll get his *** in gear then. Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:55 PM. |
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May 27, 2009, 06:46 PM
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Ive threatened him so many times with telling him im leaving. Ive even gone as far as packed my bags and went to my mothers house but i always come back after a few hours because this is MY house and i shouldnt have to leave. Hes gone away for work for a few days and wont be back til late saturday arvo. I wish i could go away for a few days but i think if i ever did do that id kill myself with worry that hes not looking after our son properly!
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#4
May 28, 2009, 08:27 AM
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Can you keep your child and make him leave? Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:56 PM. |
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#5
May 28, 2009, 08:34 AM
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I didnt mean id intentionally kill myself i just meant id worry that much that it would probably kill me. Im with our son 24/7 aswell, i dont mean for this to come across as nasty or me being a bad mother but i would absolutely love a holiday away from my son aswel! Ive never had one the most ive been away from him is 12hrs. Im never going to be that lucky tho
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#6
May 28, 2009, 08:46 AM
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I understand how you feel, everyone needs a break every now and then. Why don't you try and make plans for a holiday away from everything and get someone responsible to look after your son?
You do owe it to yourself. Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:56 PM. |
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#7
May 28, 2009, 08:55 AM
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Ive been trying to but i always end up feeling guilty for leaving my bf and my son and change my mind in planning to go away
Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:57 PM. |
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#8
May 28, 2009, 09:18 AM
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You shouldn't feel guilty at all, you need to be free for a while. But it's your choice and I don't want to force you.
Just try and stay calm, when your bf is being a ****, just think of how much better you are then he is. And please try and stop doing everything for him, let him do stuff for himself. Just love your son, he'll grow up to know that YOU are the one that took care of him and loved him. He'll be so grateful for that. Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:57 PM. |
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#9
May 28, 2009, 09:21 AM
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If i dont do stuff for him then i have to listen to him whinge! Ah its a lose lose situation. Good point about my son tho that makes me feel better
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May 28, 2009, 09:35 AM
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Rachie
I'm so sorry you have to put up with someone like that, I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. If you ever get the chance or win big money you should leave him. Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:58 PM. |
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#11
May 28, 2009, 09:37 AM
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I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. No body else would want me. And i dont want my son to grow up without his dad.
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#12
May 28, 2009, 09:49 AM
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That's not true, I'm sure there are lot's of guy's that would want you. But I understand what you are saying about your son needing his father too.
Just stay safe, if not for yourself, then do it for your son. Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:58 PM. |
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#13
May 28, 2009, 09:51 AM
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Thanx
i hope things get better soon...
Last edited by Christina86; May 28, 2009 at 06:59 PM. |
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May 28, 2009, 12:48 PM
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My ex husband was the same way... I don't know how either of us survived truth be told. It took him walking out on me and the kids (they were 28 and 11 months old) and finding himself unable to work (he ran across the border and was for a time in Canada illegaly) and having to stay home with his girlfriends children and the one that they had together to gain any semblence of sympathy... he actually apologized then. My heart goes out to you... I know how hard it is... keep your chin up... and maybe see about going out for a day and leave him with the baby and the house and see how he likes how the shoe fits? Got any out of town relatives or friends that you can go out with?
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May 28, 2009, 05:36 PM
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Honey, it ain't easy what you are going through......
he was so peeed off that he left. I raised my son on my own from a baby......no-one wants to do it, but the outcome if he had stayed would have led me onto a much more dangerous path......my son who is now 14 never knew his father until he was 12. My sons father was in and out of jail and just not very good person, to me, or my son. He committed suicide on Xmas day 2008.......my son had known him for 2 years. What can I say? I do not know the intricacies of your relationship, but if you are at this point, I would seriously consider leaving. What support do you have? Parents, friends, priest? I only had my father.......I was too violent to have any real friends and my mother was out of the picture. Take care of you and your child........14 years later, I am in a wonderful relationship with a man who loves my son and I to bits for who we are.......you shall have that too.......have faith, and we are here..... Oh and by the way, my boy is a CHAMPION!! he is a tough kid but sensitive and he has a good life.......you can do it!!!
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#16
May 30, 2009, 04:23 AM
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You need a break. Could your parents or someone you trust take your son for just one day? Trust me, I'm a mom...sometimes you just NEED a break. Don't feel guilty about it. Your child needs a happy parent, not a stressed out one.
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#17
May 30, 2009, 08:19 AM
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Sorry to hear about both of your husbands/ex husbands Sweatpea and michah thats not good! I do truely love my bf but he can just be a real pain in the butt sometimes. He always thinks about himself and thats what really bugs me! i seally would love to get away for a weekend i think that would do me the world of good! I hate being stressed out around my son and when im stressed i get very angry and sometimes i take it out on my son and he doesnt deserve that and when i get cranky at him i feel so bad and that im a bad mum for yelling at him. Mind you he really does know which buttons to press lol. Im hoping now that both myself and my bf know whats wrong with me that i can get myself better and that maybe he can lay off me a bit because hes definately not helping the situation! Fingers crossed things will change for the better soon! P.s sorry if this doesnt make sense half the time i forgot what i was writing about oops!
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