[koalabb123456]

I am not sure is it Borderline? I am always afraid of people abandoning me. Everytime when people abandon me, i sink deep into my depression and i got suicidal. I idolize people to the extreme, i workship the ground they walk on. The people i chase after are usually unavailable and female in authority figure like therapist and teachers. I have an extremely bad temper problem. I think about suicide everyday. My therapist who is also my clinician said i don't have borderline, but it all just trauma. I am not sure is this BPD.

[lotusflames]

only a psychiatrist can give you a dx, no one on here can and neither can your therapisdt unless they are trained as a psychiatrist also.

lots of people have lots of "parts" of BPD but dont have bpd if that makes sense.

I want to tell you that you don't want to WISH this on yourself. trust me.

[tryingtobeme]

I wish I could tell you if It's BPD or not. Only a trained psychiatrist can do that. For you own checking into you can search for BPD and read more about it. There are 10 criteria that they usually use to give a general idea if you have BPD or not. I think you need 5 of them on a constant basis. Again though you need a psychiatrist to offically diagnoise you.

[koalabb123456]

Originally Posted by tryingtobeme

I wish I could tell you if It's BPD or not. Only a trained psychiatrist can do that. For you own checking into you can search for BPD and read more about it. There are 10 criteria that they usually use to give a general idea if you have BPD or not. I think you need 5 of them on a constant basis. Again though you need a psychiatrist to offically diagnoise you.

My clinician/Therapist said that she thinks i am qualify to be BPD, but she doesn't think i have BPD at all.

[tryingtobeme]

Originally Posted by koalabb123456

My clinician/Therapist said that she thinks i am qualify to be BPD, but she doesn't think i have BPD at all.

That doesn't make any sense to me either. If you qualify then doesn't that mean you are? Who knows what your therapist is thinking I would go see an actual psychiatrist, in the phone book they will have psy or psychiatrist after their name, MD also usually. You don't want a PHD (psychologist), the usually only do therapy. You can have BPD and others like Bipolar, depression, ptsd....etc. A lot of people have more than one diagnosis. One is probably more prevelant but they it's not always the case. So you need to see a psychiatrist. Get the second opinion or third even if you are still unsure. You have a right to know.

[lotusflames]

or your therapist might be right and you have some of the traits of BPD but dont meet the full criteria!

in the mean time, don't freka yourself out with it. book to see a psychiatrist if you're really worried

[ECHOES]

Psychiatrists are medication experts and not diagnostic experts. Their role is to prescribe medications and monitor them.

Borderline or any diagnosis is simply a summary to describe difficulties and symptoms. As you can imagine, a summary can be like a snapshot: it can describe you at that moment but it may not be a valid description of you at every moment.
What matters is working with a therapist to learn about yourself, the root causes of the symptoms so you can alleviate them.

[lotusflames]

so if psychiatrists dont diagnose who does?

I'm in the UK where psychiatrists do the diagnosing and therapists are just therapists.

[tryingtobeme]

Originally Posted by lotusflames

so if psychiatrists dont diagnose who does?

I'm in the UK where psychiatrists do the diagnosing and therapists are just therapists.

Here in the us psychiatrists do diagnose. the psychologist don't. They do the therapy work with you. psychiatrists do the meds and diagnose you. Here I don't trust a social worker or CPN, or anything other than a psychiatrist or psychologist. They have more knowledge, more schooling and more training.

[ECHOES]

I am in the U.S.
Either a psychiatrist or psychologist (or any other mental health professional) can diagnose. I just meant that it isn't necessary to visit a psychiatrist for a diagnosis.

The diagnosis isn't that important.

I have had years of unhelpful therapy with a variety of therapists. I used to think that a psychologist was the best. That simply isn't true. It is the type of therapy, the kind of therapist and person they are, and many other things that make a therapist a good fit and to provide a helpful therapy. My current therapist has a masters in social work, is a licensed mental health counsellor, and holds a certificate of psychoanalytic training and is the best therapist I've had. Although we agreed on the diagnosis, she encourages me to not focus on it because it doesn't define me.

[kashmir0]

i'm studying in psychology now and i have bpd also. i don't think you have bpd. you definately have some symptoms but it doesn't mean that you have it. and just for the record, i trust a psychologist way more then a psychiatrist. psychiatrists meet with you once, find out your symptoms, and give you pills. a psychologist can work with you for years and get to know you, so i'd trust their judgement. psychology and psychiatry are very different.