[Popskid]

The last few days I have hit a remarkable insight in my recovery. I am unhappy and it is okay! Like many borderlines I've "done it all" in the effort to avoid feeling bad. Eating disorder, substance abuse, self-injury, suicide attempts, codependent relationships... and worse. It really is remarkable for me to realize that I am lonely, bored, and unhappy, but that I'm still okay! I still have hope for the future and I know that things will get better.

[sundog]

That's great! It's really good to hear this. I can relate! Thanks for sharing.

[Perna]

That is a wonderful realization. I use to ask myself, when I was sad or unhappy; "how should you feel in these circumstances" (and then I'd picture myself laughing at a funeral and shudder at the inappropriateness of that :-) I'd realize that our feelings are just what they are, just give us information on how we're dealing with what's happening inside/outside us and are not the culprit, don't need replacing or fixing (and they'll change on their own anyway since new things are always happening inside/out).

[tryingtobeme]

This is a wonderful realization. I have been working on believing everything you just said. I still can't accept all those feelings and that they are just feelings. I commend you! Keep up the good work.