You know you're borderline when...

I don't... yet

When you accuse your bf of wanting to leave you because you dreamt it...

OMG! That's my mom! Maybe not specifically but she would do those things. And she is nearlly impossibble to deal with. She refuses to admit she has an issue. (I'm bipolar, btw) Yet she has a book about BPD. I could go on about her but don't wanna steal your post. It just really struck a chord with me about her.

Not with my kid, he's not old enough yet (I'm sure it's coming), but with my boyfriend and mother I'm JUST LIKE THAT! I won't call him now because he has fun when he's not with me and I just sit around with nothing and noone and make myself believe that no one gives a s**T so NIETHER DO I! But, I'll end up talking to him later, while giving him a little attitude...PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE MUCH?!?!

With my ex, I dreamt he was cheating and I woke up and yelled "that ***** has been here!" Except, the s**t turned out to be true! So, that totally screwed me up to the point where I believe anything I think may be true unless I'm proven wrong...so annoying. ARGH!

I'm so glad to see you write that! My mother is passive aggressive all the time! And she refuses to admit that she could ever do anything wrong. Wow... Sorry to keep replying to your thread but I'm trying to understand my mom. I'm bipolar and that's hard enough to deal with.

Book suggestion to help understand some moms: Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Lawson. Great and helpful book!

Thanks! (and scared to read it lol)

VERY scared..

It's actually very clarifying

You are face down on the table waiting for your massage therapist and she takes forever to come back; you say to yourself, "Okay I am counting to sixty and if she doesn't get her tuchus back in here, I am out of here." lol

you call your T b/c you had to cancell your appointment, but your struggling. She keeps telling you to use your DBT skills and asking you what you can do to make it better. The whole time your thinking "If I could use those skills or make it better, would I be calling you!" When she says her next appointment is there and has to go, but call back next week if your still struggling. You hang up the phone, thinking well that was so NOT helpful. Why do I bother!

Lmao!!!!! I'm BP and my mom is likely BPD and she is ALWAYS having to one-up you in the martyr department!

This was me on sunday, except that I didn't bother to call my T because I knew she would tell me to use my dbt skills...

You're on the phone with your boyfriend and you abruptly yell at him and quickly hang up, only to call him back 30 seconds later.

Thought this would make some of you laugh.

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That's brilliant squirrel

Here's another one for laughs.

when tell your boyfriend that you don't feel like talking and then you call hime 15 mins later asking why the hell he hasn't called you all day.

lolol that's so me

Your tdoc starts talking about how you never talk about yourself and she really wants you to get something out of therapy. She says how challenging you are and when you get back to your car you email her and tell her "you've successfully scared me off. Congratulations, I won't be back"

Then you start to wonder if that REALLY was the correct response to a totally crappola session..

.... when you try to get into contact with an ex (and good friend) after she hasn't spoken to you in four years, and her mother tells you something like "she doesn't want anything to do with you and would prefer that you stop trying to contact her," so you assume either her mother hates you and is lying, or that your friend's husband forbade her from talking to you. Whichever one it is (or not), you're sorely tempted to tear a new arsehole out of either one of them. And your so-called "friend."

...when you tell the best husband you've ever had (your fifth!!) that he's the worst.

He's not good at showing empathy. He doesn't handle emotions well. His own, or anyone else's. But that doesn't mean he's a bad person, or a bad husband. In fact, he is the most stable and most healthy person I've ever had in my life, and thanks to him I am now living the most functional lifestyle I have ever lived. My trouble is, when I am merely emotional about something, rather than listening to me, he tends to immediately label me "out of control" and dismisses my feelings as a "there she goes again" kind of moment. So he shuts down and won't hear me. Which p!$$es me right off, because this comes across as being unfeeling and uncaring. In response I escalate because it makes me so darn mad--and end up proving his point!

Lovebirdsflying - I've done that on more than one occasion. Sometimes I swear he pushes my buttons on purpose just to see how much I can handle b4 I snap.

... when you get in a small tiff about something before bed. Then you lay there thinking I know this is borderline crap and I should write in the "you know your borderline when.." thread, now how should I word that. And you lay in bed trying to figure it out.