[bpd2]

I've been reading reviews of Valerie Porr's new book: Overcoming BPD. It's being very well received by people with different focuses--therapists, other mental health professionals. There's a review on PsychCentral. I'm hopeful that this is going to be a good book on us. I've been pretty discouraged lately.

I was impressed enough to order two copies this morning: one for me and one for my psychologist......"Merry Christmas from your favorite patient!".....He'll know who THAT is!

[sneaker_pimpin101]

I am interested in some books about BPD. I am trying to learn all that I can about it and how to deal with it. Any other book titles would be appreciated, as I will definitely try this one out!

I'll check that out thanks.Have you heard of "Borderline personality disorder for dummies" ? It's worth checking into.I love that series cause they break down whatever you are trying to learn...then you can expand your knowledge base.

[ECHOES]

Thanks. I also enjoyed "get me out of here" by rachael rieland, the story of her journey.

[Confused_1982]

I found "I hate you...don't leave me" to be my autobiography and is easy to read. I've also read Marsha Linehan's skills training for DBT also very good but it is really written for therapists.

yeh I have the dbt one too...I can utilize some bits tho

[Gus1234U]

"Start where you ARE" by Pema Chodron,,,,

[bpd2]

One I absolutely do not recommend is Understanding the Borderline Mother, by Christine Anne Lawson. There's a subtitle which makes it clear the book is for children of borderlines. If someone tries to give it to you--who are, I presume, a borderline...get out the garlic and the holy water and crosses and ask them why they are trying to damn you to Hell. Not only is the book debilitating for a borderline who is a mother, but it categorizes mothers into different types (evil witch, empress...or queen or something....don't remember), and those types aren't even helpful for "children" of borderlines (I put children in quotations, because they'd have to be pretty grown up to read this book).

I'm sickened, now, that a long-ago therapist gave me this book to read. All it did was make me sicker. It lags far behind other more family-oriented books now....but then, I'm also not impressed with Randi Kreger's "The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder."

I am impressed with the New Hope book (there's a series) for People with Borderline Personality Disorder, by Neil Bockian; I was helped by Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified by Robert O. Friedel; and I was helped by Lost in the Mirror, by Richard Moskovitz--and that last one is a good one for a spouse (and maybe parents?--but I hide from talking about bpd with my parents) to read.

Any other opinions on those books?-----Hey! Also, as I was looking up these titles, I found that Valerie Porr was a "with" after Neil Bockian's name on the New Hope title.

[cluelessgluten]

Has anyone read Get me out of here: My recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland? Saw it at the book store but didn't get it. any thoughts on this book?

[bpd2]

Get Me Out Of Here was loooong for what it is (we don't need each episode in detail--one or two, then telling reminders of what we know it is like for her---that's what i mean by long), but it's for real. I wish it were better written. And...the "recovery" thing always leaves me skeptical.

My verdict: it's okay, but that's all--and, clueless, it's very female.

[cluelessgluten]

So this site advertises a BPD for dummies.
I'm guessing this is for those wanting a look into our minds. Any thoughts

[bpd2]

Good point, Wolfsong. I am not advertising for any book(s), either! I am giving my personal responses and hopes. When I can, I try to give reasons for my opinions. That's all.

[cluelessgluten]

This site really does have an advertisement on the BPD info page for bpd for dummies. Im not making that up. great now everythinks Im crazy again what do I mean again every has always thought I am crazy. hahhahahahhah

[bpd2]

Oh--as it PsychCentral site....I wonder what they paid for THAT!!!
That joke made, I do like all the X for Dummies that I've ever bought (computer stuff).

I agree with Woofie so far the best book, IMO is Borderline for Dummies.

But, I might write one then that shall be the best book ever!

[womangirl]

I mentioned this one an another thread and just finished reading it last night:

The Buddha and Borderline.

Seriously the best and most inspirational book I've read yet!

Originally Posted by sneaker_pimpin101

I am interested in some books about BPD. I am trying to learn all that I can about it and how to deal with it. Any other book titles would be appreciated, as I will definitely try this one out!

Clueless.........adorable....... ~W~

[cluelessgluten]

So I bought Rachel Reiland's book get me out of here. BPD2 I see what you about feminine but I can still relate with behaviour similarities. I don't have gender issues like She did but definitely have issues with manhood. Feel child like sometimes. Sometimes feel like I'm treated like a child or as though folks walk on egg shells around me. Especially my family. I hate when someone refers to me as hey buddy. Feel like at the ball park and the coach is talking to me. I'm not your buddy not just what they say but inflection they really do sound like there talking to a kid. Well any way I'm at the 2nd chapter and I've alelreadrly cried Twice. So scary how different we all are but yet can be so much alike at the same time. BPDrs that is.

[bpd2]

So....I've been thinking about Valerie Porr's book. My verdict:
1. It isn't very accessible, really. Definitely not readable when you're in crisis and needing help. There are times when I absolutely could not have read it.
2. She repeatedly says that borderlines are in constant pain. I didn't even want to think about that--didn't want to take my own internal temperature....Just not a helpful thing to say............But, she says it, I believe because-----(next point)
3. This book is really written for a family approach, whether we're talking spouse, parents, children.....

The excellent thing about this book, though, is that it asks others to change in their behavior to us, just as they would change in their behavior to someone who is now in a wheelchair: you reconfigure your house to make it accessible and comfortable to them; you try to see they world through their eyes, which lets you see, then, what it is they need.

Very good descriptions of the borderline mind--also, discusses the findings of the physical differences in borderline brains.

Very worth reading, but a slow go.....and depressing at time. Validating and compassionate, but...depressing. I have to say, though, that any book about us is likely to be so.

I think when we read books about bpd, we should probably have support available--correctives to the sad moods we're likely to fall into....

[cluelessgluten]

You're right about needing support. Find reading her experience brings my own to the surface and have to take a moment to get my self together before continuing. When I'm done with this book Ill look for the one you mentioned her. While reading does bring back painful memories but it brings me comfort that I am not alone. The funny thing is while reading I am thinking man what is wrong with me I am not that bad off why do I whine about my miniscule little problems and then I read where she felt the same way about being in the hospital. Then I think about the times wife has called cops and or paramedics. Or the times I jumped out the car in traffic and walked away. Well any way I can relate with the craziness.

[jeremiahgirl]

HI, I HAVE A BOOK CALLED: "THE DIALECTICAL BEHAVIOR THERAPY SKILLS WORKBOOK"
PRACTICAL DBT EXERCISES FOR LEARNING MINDFULNESS, INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS,EMOTIONAL REGULATION & DISTRESS TOLERANCE

BY; MATTHEW McKAY,PHD. JEFFREY C. WOOD, PSY.D. JEFFREY BRANTLEY,MD.

I BOUGHT IT AT AMAZON FOR ABOUT 17.00 THERE ARE OTHERS TOO.

Jg +

[bpd2]

Jeremiahgirl: Terrific signature!--and I especially like it because we joke about being "brave little toasters" in my family.

[Manzaz]

Hi there, I'm new to the forums, and as the mother of a BPD sufferer, I am always looking out for information and new books on bpd, and have a number in my expanding collection. BPD for Dummies is quite good from a parent's perspective, the Robert Friedel book is also quite helpful. I would really like to see more books by people who have/had bpd, as it's so hard for carers to understand what you are going through, and how you feel most of the time, and most of all how to help (or even whether to help...). Also, bpd2, what do you mean by "And...the "recovery" thing always leaves me skeptical. ""?
Thanks so much for the information and insight I am gaining from all your posts.