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#1
Sep 13, 2012, 06:37 PM
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thanks for inspiring me with that thread of "things not to say to a borderline".
I thought I'd make one to say to borderlines (or, rather, "pwbpd's" persons with bpd) 1) BPD is an illness. 2) You can learn to cope with it. 3) Pwbpd's can live happy normal lives. 4) Not everyone has a bad attitude toward us. 5) If properly educated, professionals and others CAN learn about it and come out of their ignorance. 6) Pwbpd's can love. 7) Some pwbpd's have friends, families, and partners who understand them and love them. 8) YOU ARE OKAY. 9) You are NOT your illness! 10) You deserve to be treated well. 11) You deserve to be taught a new way to live and to heal. 12) You deserve second chances. You deserve to be happy! Billi
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#2
Sep 13, 2012, 06:56 PM
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Very well done list Billi!
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Sep 13, 2012, 06:58 PM
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I cannot think of anything else to add - this is a great list billi and one we would all do well to bare in mind. Thanks for contributing
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Sep 13, 2012, 07:31 PM
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You are lovable.
You are worth it! You are not a bad person. You are not to blame for having this disorder. There is hope. ps. great idea Billi, thank you for the inspiration. |
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Sep 14, 2012, 05:31 PM
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thanks everyone.
((((((group)))))))) Billi
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Sep 16, 2012, 11:01 PM
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bumping this up again.
B.
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Sep 16, 2012, 11:14 PM
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Your feelings are valid.
It's going to be okay |
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Sep 16, 2012, 11:22 PM
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You deserve a good life.
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Sep 16, 2012, 11:40 PM
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If no one will help you, there is a way out.
You can help yourself. All you need is information, patience with yourself, and a little faith. You can learn to heal yourself. It is an inside job.
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Sep 16, 2012, 11:55 PM
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We got your back
You're closer to recovery every time you learn something new: every day! You can do it! (sounds like a constipation commercial, but hey, I like it) |
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Sep 17, 2012, 02:25 AM
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LUV this thread! Great idea. Thanks Billi.
I tend to be pretty negative and this never occurred to me. This is so helpful.
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Sep 17, 2012, 07:26 AM
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All of these are good, but the body language and intent is just as important as the words if not more so. I've had some of these used in a very sarcastic, biting manner or with that "tone of voice" that makes me believe that they are just patronizing me and are not actually concerned for my welfare. In some cases, however, I'm sure I'm reading things in to it that don't really exist.
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Sep 17, 2012, 08:19 AM
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Hey, me too carm. Of course I misconstrue sooooo many things. However, if someone doesn't have the right facial expression or happens to sigh, laugh, or god forbid isn't paying attention it sends me over the edge. Ugh...I wish I could just be calm and let people be themselves without judgement or feeling as if I'm being attacked.
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Sep 18, 2012, 06:48 PM
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Quote:
And what they did was just wrong. Being so mean like that. And today I struggle with wondering the same thing: Are they being for real? B.
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Sep 28, 2012, 04:23 AM
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*Even pwbpd's get treated badly*.
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