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Dec 21, 2012, 06:48 PM
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I have to face it, no one will ever love me. Cos I don't love me
I'm just so sad right now :'( |
 Anonymous327401, Anonymous33145, fletch33, optimize990h, shezbut
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Dec 21, 2012, 07:00 PM
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I'm sorry you're so sad greyclouds. I would like this opportunity to offer you some virtual hugs. I know its not much, but I truly hope you feel better soon........
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Dec 21, 2012, 07:02 PM
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This pain hurts so
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Dec 21, 2012, 09:23 PM
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Dec 21, 2012, 11:11 PM
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Dec 22, 2012, 03:51 AM
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Grey:
I know how you feel. I have felt that way most of my life. But you know what? I have found two people who love me, in spite of my self-hatred. They love me because they chose to do so. I do not understand how they can, but they do. I find myself unlovable, but they do not. I am still depressed often. I am still unhappy with who I am. But I no longer say that no one loves me, because these two people do. Neither of them is a life partner or SO, but they are both my friends. I do no speak to them often, but they have remained my friends for decades. If someone as ugly and self-loathing as myself can be blessed with this friends, so can you. Having them has not solved all my problems, but knowing they are there has helped me to get through many things. I encourage you to not give up. Someone will see beauty in you that you cannot see. Maybe you have just not met them yet. I hope it is OK, I will pray for you. I know what is to believe you are unlovable. I kind of still do think and feel that, but then I look at my friends and I know hey really do love me. so I must be lovable, in some way. I don't get how, but they manage to love me anyway. You are lovable. You will find your someone(s) one day. I care about you. I do not know you well enough to love you, but I do care about you and I hope your pain diminishes soon. 
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Dec 22, 2012, 12:36 PM
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 ((((grey))))
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Dec 22, 2012, 01:33 PM
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Dec 22, 2012, 01:48 PM
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The pain...so intense...no unforgiving....willing to do anything to make it stop. But it will stop. You have the strength within you to endure; we all do. Enjoy the good days...good hours. Gain strength from them so pull you through the bad times. You're lovable....roller coasters are never fun. You, we, all of us, will endure, help each other, and survive.
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Dec 22, 2012, 01:50 PM
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I don't see how you saying something like "You are lovable" as being helpful when she doesn't believe that. Everyone here, including me, can make those statements, and my guess is she still will not believe that. In a sense I see it as being an invalidating comment. The real question that needs answering is, how does she come to realize, for herself, and believe that she is lovable. That is the difficult question which she needs to answer for herself otherwise she will never believe or accept it. Neither you or me knows whether or not she will ever meet someone (s) one day. Maybe she will or maybe she won't. Quote:
1. You're entitled to how you feel "right now" 2. It would be more accurate to say "I don't feel loved right now" because you don't know the future. Maybe 2 weeks from now you will. So, recognize feelings and perceptions can and will change. 3. I do believe they're is some validity about not loving yourself. I do believe that will impact you're relationships. I think you should ask yourself how much of your thought process is based on fact vs emotion? Also, ask yourself what could you do to feel more lovable? You may think friends will solve your issues or your life will be better, however MDD is correct in that friends / SO will not solve your problems. I wish you well.. |
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Dec 24, 2012, 08:34 PM
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grey,
I feel this way so often it is not even funny. I wonder daily why anyone even remotely cares because I hate myself so much. This disorder is the worst. 
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Dec 25, 2012, 07:15 AM
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I know how this feels. And it doesn't help that others think the aggression and dramatic behaviour is a sign that we are evil and attention seeking. I'm terribly terribly caring about others and I believe I'm a good person, but we can't help that this disorder casts a cloud over that. The good news is that some people are patient. Some people think we're worth it. I've got friends who I've said terrible things to - and even physically attacked - but they still think I'm worth coming back to. Some people understand we're ill and love us despite that.
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