[bluefish27]

Do these things bother you guys ? I seem to be extremely sensitive to them. If someone looks at me in a weird way, has an attitude, or uses weird tones of voice around me I can be greatly disturbed and irritated for days. Doesn't everyone notice others attitudes around them ? Is it just my reactions that are different ? This has caused a lot of grief for me in social interactions and relationship building.

[shlump]

Yep, everyone notices people's attitudes toward them. Depends on the person for me whether it upsets me to any great extent. Some matter, some don't. Maybe a lot of it has to do with how you feel about YOU. These things can be worked on. You do have support here.

You can find some strength here. PM me if you need a friendly ear...err eyes and fingers.

New year? New you?

I hope today is a good day for you, Bluefish.

[bluefish27]

Yes, that's very right. It is about how I feel about myself. Thanks for your reply

[BorderlineMess]

Yes. I read into all of that. It'll bother me for days. I'll want to know what I did wrong. I think it's one of the many things that keeps me from forming close attachments. Or at least one of the things that pushes people away. I try not to talk about it to people because I've learned over the years that I'm the only one that thinks this way in my world of people. But you are not alone in thinking that. It's a very frustrating symptom that I wish I could ignore.

[bluefish27]

Originally Posted by BorderlineMess

Yes. I read into all of that. It'll bother me for days. I'll want to know what I did wrong. I think it's one of the many things that keeps me from forming close attachments. Or at least one of the things that pushes people away. I try not to talk about it to people because I've learned over the years that I'm the only one that thinks this way in my world of people. But you are not alone in thinking that. It's a very frustrating symptom that I wish I could ignore.

Yes that's exactly how I feel. I'll usually curse that person saying how rude and mannerless they are, but inside I'm thinking how they know I'm a piece of crap or trash or weirdo, and it'll really hurt me for a long time cause I know I am.

I know it's hard to do, but we must keep in mind that many times we misinterpret facial expressions and body language. A person could have just eaten something nasty and makes a face or is in pain and frowns or grimaces and we automatically assume it's directed towards us. Yay for poor self image and paranoia!! I'm with you guys...I do it all the time too, but if you keep that in mind, you can sometimes see your mistake before making an *ss out of yourself.

I tend to misinterpret them or just plain don't understand -- kind of aspie traits. But I think it exacerbates my issues of paranoia. Since I don't understand the facial expressions always or see them at all, I usually think the worst. They hate me, they think I'm a freak, weirdo or creepy. But then I think everyone thinks that anyway IRL.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by bluefish27

Do these things bother you guys ? I seem to be extremely sensitive to them. If someone looks at me in a weird way, has an attitude, or uses weird tones of voice around me I can be greatly disturbed and irritated for days. Doesn't everyone notice others attitudes around them ? Is it just my reactions that are different ? This has caused a lot of grief for me in social interactions and relationship building.

I do the same thing.

That's why I have so much trouble dealing with others. One day I will get past it. Not yet, though; it's still going on.

It can be quite discouraging. I know.

My mentor says "the real enemy is your own thought, Carol." Even if someone else is actually upset with me or putting me down, I am the one doing it the most. Putting myself down.

Carol

[avlady]

I used to be the same way, I think it is a phase we go through around 20's and teenage years, not used to socialising, then you kind of get to use your own body language without worrying what other people are thinking either, because other people are also reading your body languge too which may or may not be positive or negative towards one person or any at all/

[cboxpalace]

kinda. I tend to really analyze things like do the words match the facial expression/body language or does the tone of voice come across as it's suppose to. For ie.. if I ask someone to go to the movie, and there was a hesitation with their yes.. I'd be very skeptical and doubt their sincerity.

I think dbt may have helped somewhat, but I've also been kind of schizoidish, for awhile now, where I'm just very aloof to people and don't really care.