Narcissistic family???

Wondering if anyone here with BPD had or has narcissistic parents or family members that contributed to their disorder?

I am seeing a few things more clearly these days with each passing memory flooding in and I just want to hide away from the reality setting on me at the moment.

If you do or did, do you fear of turning out like that? Or think you may have traits as such because of it?

I read an article an hour back and your question is similar to it. I am not BPD. I can speak after being with my BPD ex for many a years. One of the biggest issue, maybe the biggest issue, she has in life is enmeshment with her parents. And I read this about enmeshment and narcissistic parents -
Children, being dependent, become victims of their parents’ problems and inadequacies. Most of the parents I am describing can be characterized as narcissistic, putting their needs ahead of those of their children. These parents are overtly or covertly demanding or controlling of their children. We all recognize that parents’ true mission is to take care of their children. In the case of narcissistic parents, however, the reverse is often true, and these children learn to feel guilty unless they are attuned to meeting the needs of their parents. These children grow up with a hypersensitivity to rejection due to the fact that parent love is conditional, not freely given.

My parents where narcissistic at least my mom was to my needs I often found I had to validate her feelings first before my own...I still do its hard...

my mom was often controlling of my environment even when I moved out she made it about her. She still has those I told ya so's.

Thanks, that helps a bit but would still like to hear from others too.

I am also not talking about your every day run of the mill narcissists either. I am talking of a mother or others in the family taking it to a whole other level and pretty much destroying the child and the child's will until there is nothing left but what they want to be there and then that turns into a whole other level of evil. Honestly that is the way I feel about it.

My mother wasn't a narcissist, but I can safely say that my mother is the reason I have BPD. Sure, I was born predisposed to it (since there are anatomical, biochemical, and genetic factors which play into it) and you can say that I'm bad for blaming and pointing fingers, but she was the only parent and the only consistent authority figure I had until I was 15. My mother has untreated bipolar disorder and, looking back, I'm almost positive she's borderline as well. I grew up as the only child, and we were very poor and sometimes even homeless. She told me constantly that I was a mistake, that I was fat, ugly, a b----, that she hated me, etc etc. She'd berate me all the time and then yell at me for crying (invalidation) so I'd just either not cry or go hide somewhere and cry. There were so many times when the roles would be almost reversed and I would have to parent myself, and she would be almost as irresponsible as a child like when bills had to be payed or when I would have to stay home alone without a babysitter when I was eight years old while she worked. And there is so much more, but my story is far too long for this forum.

My brother is very narcissistic. He always has been ~ and I'd say that he definitely played a significant role in my development of BPD. My mom has strong narcissistic traits as well.

There were several other factors that sure didn't help me though.

My father had narcissistic traits.... so yes.
Stepmother also.

I think so, but I'm not sure. My boyfriend thinks it's bipolar but he doesn't know my mom as well as I do. I may have a few NPD traits but it doesn't bother me. If I become an NPD then that would be a shame, but I wouldn't feel bad because of it.

No narcissism this side though... other stuff that probably fkd me up good and solid (older brother molested me and I kept quiet) but my parents and other siblings were good to me overall.

As a child I was really mean to my younger brother though, like vindictive, evil mean. Idk why, he was a sweet, cute, albeit annoying kid Maybe I took it out on him

I have "personality disorder, NOS with borderline and dependent features." My mom is narcisstic, and my dad is a psychopath and, yes, those two screwed me up.