[chuckelzchriss]

I'm forcing my husband away exactly the same why I pushed someone else I really cared I was wondering if it'd be a bad idea if I asked that ex for help I don't think he's talk to me though I pretty much made him hate me throughly I did try to apologize the other day on email because I live like five hours from him now and I no longer have his number to call I just don't know if it'd be a good idea out not I don't wasn't my husband to feel threatened and I know I'd feel that if he talked to Ann ex but each time we fight I think this is exactly just like what happen before so I thought maybe hecould specifically tell me what to work on please don't say ask my husband either he won't tell me he don't tell me when I've done wrong he tells his mom instead so a don't fight which pisses me off

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by chuckelzchriss

I'm forcing my husband away exactly the same why I pushed someone else I really cared I was wondering if it'd be a bad idea if I asked that ex for help I don't think he's talk to me though I pretty much made him hate me throughly I did try to apologize the other day on email because I live like five hours from him now and I no longer have his number to call I just don't know if it'd be a good idea out not I don't wasn't my husband to feel threatened and I know I'd feel that if he talked to Ann ex but each time we fight I think this is exactly just like what happen before so I thought maybe hecould specifically tell me what to work on please don't say ask my husband either he won't tell me he don't tell me when I've done wrong he tells his mom instead so a don't fight which pisses me off

I didnt bother taking the poll.. because I believe you already know your answer and we cant tell you what to do...thats not what psych central is for. here every member has control over their own lives, no members tell each other what they should and should not do....

only you and your treatment providers can say what you should and should not be doing...

my opinion is that you are a very smart and able person...anyone that can see beyond their mental problems to seeing they are repeating a past behavior and then make/execute a plan to carry out a destructive behavior can (if they want to) stop that destructive behavior..

Im going to be blunt here...your post reminds me of the time one of my siblings committed a crime...he knew what he was doing was wrong (evidenced by his approaching a friend to ask the friend whether he should do the crime or not) he expected his friend to say no dont do it but this friend decided if this so called friend is going to ask me if its ok for him to do something wrong lets show him how rediculas asking a friend to tell him whether to do wrong or not is...he told my brother heck yea if you want to do it, do it man. my brother got caught shoplifting a remote control car...my brother was 8 yrs old.

my point is even children know right from wrong.

you know what you should and should not do, and you are competent enough to plan this out, which means you are competent enough to make your own decision and do what you think is right for your self...

Im sorry but you cant use the members here as your scapegoat (reason for doing right or wrong) thats not what we are here for.

I would rarely ask for help from an ex anyway but even more so when it has to do with your SO. If you're having problems with your husband, the last person in the world to even consider talking to would be an ex. Even in the best case your husband was an an understanding person, it's just too high of a risk to take and IMO totally inappropriate. An ex has no business helping you with your own relationship problems. They didn't understand the first time, that's why they're an ex. why would they understand now?

[BlueInanna]

Hi, I know you don't know me cuz I'm new to this part of pc, but since you asked i say try to stay away from ex's when it comes to your current marriage problem. I hope you and H can work things out with a T. H would prob feel betrayed if he found you discussing your relationship with ex.

[Luctor]

Gotta agree with the s4 and Blue. Even though you feel at your wits end as to what to do, I don't think turning to an ex is a good idea. Especially if, as you say, he hates you. I really think you'd benefit from seeing a therapist.

[chuckelzchriss]

Thank you I was thinking the same but I think we actually worked through the problem for now and he's completely willing to sit with me learn about my disorders and discuss how to handle then inevitable psychotic breaks when they do rear their ugly face also trying to find new therapist because mine deferred borderline said I show many signs but she won't diagnose it for a year because she said she had to get to know me first plus she had to look up the term it's one she's not familiar weigh so I don't think she's the right counselor for me