Why is she such a ***** !

One thing, i dont think that anyone owes it to us to be our rock when we suffer from disorders that can cause such grief to ourselves and others. I was with a man with horrible mood/rage issues, ones that even outweighed myself.. and really in so many ways, mental illness is contagious, it affects all those around us. I wouldn't blame my husband if he ran for the hills some days. I mean.. he has a right to happiness to. He didnt make me this way ... It would be AWESOME to have that fairy tale Pillar to carry us through, but in the end it's just Me, Myself and I.
Secondly, i totally get your hurt. I have been in that desperate, painful, ugly place before. I don't think anyone was attacking you, they were only going based on the info you gave which is that your ex girlfriend ended your relationship, still works for you, and you gave her flowers at work, she was not happy to receive those flowers, and you called her a *****. So, please know, the responses you get are only in relation to that scenario and not at ALL an attack on you. Sorry for you pain.

Thank you. Well i now know the truth why she didnt accept the flowers, shes got a new bloke and i found out by accident. If you read my other post it explains it, its ripped me to bits but shes made her choice now sobi have to let go. I thought there was hope as she kept saying there was nobody else but shes now come clean and the wuestions i asjed sge answered honestly but its destroyed me badly.

Someone once told me to that the ***** life tosses on us serves as a compost for growth into the future.
At the time it REALLY stinks, but eventually it will foster a better future ---- thats what they say anyhow