Ok so tell me, am I getting too weird about this or what?

I was on the bus and expectantly waiting for "teh girl" to get on the bus. She didn't ride the bus today... And to be honest, my heart sank.. WTF is this? I don't even know the lady!

I'm so messed up. LMAO

[Hong Kong Fluey]

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself buddy!

You are obviously attracted to her and was disappointed to not see her. Nothing wrong there.

BUT. You gotta talk to her man! Just do it!

Originally Posted by Hong Kong Fluey

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself buddy!

You are obviously attracted to her and was disappointed to not see her. Nothing wrong there.

BUT. You gotta talk to her man! Just do it!

hahahaha easier said than done, mr Nike.

[GeorgiaGirl413]

Oh , Sandman. There is nothing at all wrong with you sweetie. You like a girl and you were hoping to see her. When you didn't you were disappointed. Believe it or not, that's completely normal. But we do have difficult times with relationships don't we? Just take it slow, let things develop at their own pace. I know that I usually "fall in love" very quickly and then smother the person. In fact, I have often referred to my relationships as "taking hostages". Fear of doing this has kept me out of any relationship now for years and years. Perhaps this is what you are afraid of and what is really making you feel a little nuts? I don't know, just a thought. Maybe not at all. But I agree with Hong Kong Fluey, talk to the girl!!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[allme]

You're not messed up, you simply have a crush and lust makes us do stuff we wouldn't usually do! Don't be hard on yourself....and pls talk to this girl lol

Originally Posted by allme

You're not messed up, you simply have a crush and lust makes us do stuff we wouldn't usually do! Don't be hard on yourself....and pls talk to this girl lol

haha that would be nice but I'll be honest with you. I had a crush on a girl at another job i had... she was always around and I had many opportunities.. did I do anything (other than tripping over myself and choking on words to say hi) to get to know her? ha!

Originally Posted by GeorgiaGirl413

Oh , Sandman. There is nothing at all wrong with you sweetie. You like a girl and you were hoping to see her. When you didn't you were disappointed. Believe it or not, that's completely normal. But we do have difficult times with relationships don't we? Just take it slow, let things develop at their own pace. I know that I usually "fall in love" very quickly and then smother the person. In fact, I have often referred to my relationships as "taking hostages". Fear of doing this has kept me out of any relationship now for years and years. Perhaps this is what you are afraid of and what is really making you feel a little nuts? I don't know, just a thought. Maybe not at all. But I agree with Hong Kong Fluey, talk to the girl!!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Aww thanks... it is true... I am partially afraid to ever let it happen in the first place. So much emotion wrapped up in when you find a lady you are into. :/ Just all the "why did you call me x hours later than you said you would...are you getting tired of me?" "Where were you!? You were 12.674 mins later than you said!" "why haven't you texted me back!? it took you 7 seconds longer than it usually does! wtf? are you leaving me?" Yeah I just need to find someone that understands that and is ok with it. hahahah right yeah no.. so that's my discouragement.

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Aww thanks... it is true... I am partially afraid to ever let it happen in the first place. So much emotion wrapped up in when you find a lady you are into. :/ Just all the "why did you call me x hours later than you said you would...are you getting tired of me?" "Where were you!? You were 12.674 mins later than you said!" "why haven't you texted me back!? it took you 7 seconds longer than it usually does! wtf? are you leaving me?" Yeah I just need to find someone that understands that and is ok with it. hahahah right yeah no.. so that's my discouragement.

Well if it makes you feel better, I am a nutcase and found somebody that has loved me for who I am for 14 yrs now. She is out there!

Originally Posted by allme

Well if it makes you feel better, I am a nutcase and found somebody that has loved me for who I am for 14 yrs now. She is out there!

I DONT' WANT HER TO BE OUT THERE! i WANT HER TO BE RIGHT HERE DAMMIT >.<

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I DONT' WANT HER TO BE OUT THERE! i WANT HER TO BE RIGHT HERE DAMMIT >.<

LMAO!! Awww she is there, you just can't see it yet...hmm or maybe you do? TALK TO HER!

oh staaahhhp.. you know I can't do that. In all my life in spite of being married 2x, I have yet to actually ask a woman out. Never dated, never done that kind of thing, it's foreign to me. Fact is that's part of why, I'm convinced, that I end up with the wrong women. I wait for them to approach me, and the problem with that is that the ones that do that can be the over bearing and just a bit too assertive for what will last for me. I need an introvert and they aren't the ones that tend to do that.

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

oh staaahhhp.. you know I can't do that. In all my life in spite of being married 2x, I have yet to actually ask a woman out. Never dated, never done that kind of thing, it's foreign to me. Fact is that's part of why, I'm convinced, that I end up with the wrong women. I wait for them to approach me, and the problem with that is that the ones that do that can be the over bearing and just a bit too assertive for what will last for me. I need an introvert and they aren't the ones that tend to do that.

Ok ...hmmm so how about a dating website?

Originally Posted by allme

Ok ...hmmm so how about a dating website?

heh no. started to try that at one point. it's lame. really though it's ok. I don't mean to come off as if I'm looking. I'm really not actively.. it's only this girl recently that has piqued my interest that has made me consider it again.

If it happens it does, if not... my life is still good.

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

heh no. started to try that at one point. it's lame. really though it's ok. I don't mean to come off as if I'm looking. I'm really not actively.. it's only this girl recently that has piqued my interest that has made me consider it again.

If it happens it does, if not... my life is still good.

Well whatever happens, just as long as you are happy

Originally Posted by allme

Well whatever happens, just as long as you are happy

My friend (jokingly) keeps telling me "just go get a ***** and get ****d" lmao as if that's what it's all about. He's kidding of course.

[Hong Kong Fluey]

OK buddy, probably best be honest with her, just sit next to her and say "hey, sorry but I just gotta talk to you"

and go from there!

Aldo complement her, girls love them, as do us men!

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

My friend (jokingly) keeps telling me "just go get a ***** and get ****d" lmao as if that's what it's all about. He's kidding of course.

Lmao hmm well my job is controversial (I work from home like mentioned before)and could help you so let me know! hahaha.

Originally Posted by allme

Lmao hmm well my job is controversial (I work from home like mentioned before)and could help you so let me know! hahaha.

wait what?

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

wait what?

No it is ok it was a sick joke I work for an escort agency as a receptionist for porn stars. No joke either. A bit controversial but hey that is me and I love my job. I basically set up dinner dates and holidays for rich guys that want to date actual porn stars. For normal beautiful women too not just porn stars. EEek some ppl might get put off because of that

Originally Posted by allme

No it is ok it was a sick joke I work for an escort agency as a receptionist for porn stars. No joke either. A bit controversial but hey that is me and I love my job. I basically set up dinner dates and holidays for rich guys that want to date actual porn stars. For normal beautiful women too not just porn stars. EEek some ppl might get put off because of that

OMG wow. that's . really. wild. No I'm not put off by that, don't have an aversion for porn or porn stars either but definitely don't need that.

Shoot i'd be happy with a cute lady friend that just liked gaming and hanging out.

[allme]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

OMG wow. that's . really. wild. No I'm not put off by that, don't have an aversion for porn or porn stars either but definitely don't need that.

Shoot i'd be happy with a cute lady friend that just liked gaming and hanging out.

Glad you're not put off Some ppl are....

Awwww hugs

Originally Posted by allme

No it is ok it was a sick joke I work for an escort agency as a receptionist for porn stars. No joke either. A bit controversial but hey that is me and I love my job. I basically set up dinner dates and holidays for rich guys that want to date actual porn stars. For normal beautiful women too not just porn stars. EEek some ppl might get put off because of that

Cool!

Hey, not put off by that. I met a phone sex operator in a chat room recently.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

oh staaahhhp.. you know I can't do that. In all my life in spite of being married 2x, I have yet to actually ask a woman out. Never dated, never done that kind of thing, it's foreign to me. Fact is that's part of why, I'm convinced, that I end up with the wrong women. I wait for them to approach me, and the problem with that is that the ones that do that can be the over bearing and just a bit too assertive for what will last for me. I need an introvert and they aren't the ones that tend to do that.

I asked this in another thread but I don't think you saw...how in the world did you manage to be married 2x without asking a woman out?

Anyway, I am jealous; I love having a crush. There is just something so...hopeful and alive about it. It's an antidepressant. I haven't had a crush in years. I suppose it doesn't help working in a female-dominated occupation. Most of the doctors I work with are male, but they're also all married.

[allme]

Originally Posted by misskeena

I asked this in another thread but I don't think you saw...how in the world did you manage to be married 2x without asking a woman out?

Anyway, I am jealous; I love having a crush. There is just something so...hopeful and alive about it. It's an antidepressant. I haven't had a crush in years. I suppose it doesn't help working in a female-dominated occupation. Most of the doctors I work with are male, but they're also all married.

I also love having crushes too! I am married so looking only! Trouble is I can start obsessing over them so it isn't so healthy in the end....but yes those initial crush phases are a rush! ----- Just like to add, apart from my ex T kissing me I have never cheated on my hubby in 14 yrs and never plan to!

Originally Posted by misskeena

I asked this in another thread but I don't think you saw...how in the world did you manage to be married 2x without asking a woman out?

Anyway, I am jealous; I love having a crush. There is just something so...hopeful and alive about it. It's an antidepressant. I haven't had a crush in years. I suppose it doesn't help working in a female-dominated occupation. Most of the doctors I work with are male, but they're also all married.

First wife came onto me.. she really made the move on me.

2nd wife I met on line... never went out per se... but ended up getting married a couple years later after an online romance.

Yeah so never done the dating thing.. tbh it seems weird to me to do in the first place. I can't just go out with some lady just randomly. I see a lot of women that are attractive to me but rarely do I go "ooh she's so attractive I should ask her out" that's just weird. I think the whole thing about the dating scene is just odd. idk. I know its weird but that's how I am.