I have so much to change

Thank you, allme! That means a lot!

Aw no worries! Have you approached him about couples therapy yet?

No, I haven't. This past week was very busy for him and I didn't want to add to the stress. But on a happy note, we went out last night for the first time in a long time! We usually have his daughter every weekend so we don't go out on dates very much. We had a great time and so I am thankful for that! I am going to ask about therapy this weekend sometime.

Aw that's wonderful! Maybe you need a few more nights like that Well really, the best of luck when asking him, I so hope he agrees, this could be the only way

I LOVE this allme! Thank you so much! It has been a rough day so that is very much appreciated!

I honestly don't even know if couples therapy is an option anymore. I feel like we are two different people now. I don't know if there is a way to find each other again.

This night is getting worse and worse. He wont stop bringing up the mistakes I have made in the past. He just wont stop.

It is trigger after trigger and he doesn't understand why it messes me up so much. I don't see any good in me right now. Absolutely none.

I will just turn into a shell of a person and do everything he says or everything that will make him happy. Then maybe one day down the road he will actually stop treating me like I am such a mistake and so worthless.

I don't understand why he keeps bringing up the past and torturing you with it. You need to tell him he can't do this anymore or you will leave him. The past is the past and should remain there. Sure he has made mistakes too right? How would he feel if you did the same? I fear couples therapy is the only way to go for you guys if he wont listen to you!

Don't let him stop you being you, he sounds like he is trying to control you and manipulate you into being something he wants by beating you with your past. Why would he want to make you feel worthless? Love isn't about that at all.

Tell him, tell him he has to stop and you can't take it anymore! He has to stop and stop asap and allow you to flourish like you deserve!

I strongly recommend the therapy! Will give you both the chance to air your thoughts in a safe environment

He thinks I should be able to just stop how I feel and how my head works sometimes. It doesn't work that way and he doesn't understand that. I am afraid that if I tell him he needs to stop or I'll leave that he will tell me to go! Maybe I just need to be stronger and work on things myself. And stop asking for his help or talking to him about how I am feeling.

But then if you do, that will leave you feeling alone. It's up to you but whatever you decide you still have us

Thank you. I am so happy to have you all. It is so nice to talk to people who don't judge you right away and don't tell you how crazy you are. I feel alone all the time. I tried to make plans with my younger sisters tonight and they both changed things last minute because they would rather be with their boyfriends. It hurt my feelings so much...and I don't want to be sad anymore.