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Dec 28, 2013, 11:07 AM
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I believe that everyone does this to some degree, but I think we are much, much more susceptible to it than most and I wanted your thoughts. It is what Pema Chodron calls Shenpa.
Do you ever have an automatic, strong reaction to someone's voice, expressions, body language that is instant, affects your voice or your face, and is very negative: anger, annoyance, etc, but before you're even fully aware it exists, it's gone? I think this has become a matter of contention (yet another one) between myself and my husband. I do this all the time, he picks up on it, and then he thinks that's how I feel for forever way after the feeling passes....
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Dec 28, 2013, 11:11 AM
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YES, I've definitely done that with my family. I'll automatically feel disgusted but then tell myself they haven't actually done anything to make me feel that way yet.
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Dec 28, 2013, 11:18 PM
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I do this too. My partner will say something to me, and apparently for a flicker of a moment I will look annoyed.
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Dec 29, 2013, 05:41 PM
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there is this person in the building she has a annoying high pitch voice that I cannot stand it I look pissed off every time she speaks...I cannot coral it she is always like do I bother you I cannot just say stop talking because that would be rude.
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Dec 29, 2013, 07:57 PM
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I am often like this with my bf (and I was with my ex-hub as well). I hear him say or do something, and they say that I look at them with disgust {no better word for it apparently}. However, I am completely unaware of this in that moment.
In retrospect, I can see where I was irritated at that time. I can even recall moments when I was absolutely disgusted by my ex-hub, and my current bf.
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Dec 29, 2013, 11:00 PM
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Yes! It has a name?
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Dec 30, 2013, 07:34 AM
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Dec 30, 2013, 01:52 PM
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Dec 30, 2013, 03:04 PM
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#11
Dec 30, 2013, 05:31 PM
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Yes, I went on and checked it out...even sent the page to my boyfriend since he seems interested in helping me.....don't know how long he will feel that way..... geesh...just no faith in me at all....
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