[BarelyMakingIt]

I had a party for my daughter's birthday yesterday and of course I messed everything up. Nobody showed up due to my poor planning. The party was planned at the very last minute and I didn't make sure all of the guests would show up. So at the party yesterday I find out that two of them didn't even know about it. Those that did know didn't show up. I feel so, so bad, words can't even describe. I don't know how I messed up so bad. My mother said that I shouldn't feel bad about it at all and my daughter was ok. She did say that she wished more of her friends came and when I told her it was my fault that her party was messed up she said that she knew lol. She and her brother had fun and she wasn't mad at me, but that doesn't change how awful, inadequate and guilty I feel. I really, really need to get myself together.

[Starling.]

I'm sorry to hear that, it sounds like a horrible thing to happen. I don't think you deserve to be so hard on yourself though. It isn't your fault that the people who did know about it didn't show up! No-one else is angry with you, and I don't think you deserve to be angry with yourself - though I know it isn't that easy. These things do happen though, and you can always use it as something to learn from. Try to look after yourself.

[PippaIsAlone]

Hey,

Don't blame yourself. You didn't mention how old your daughter was turning so I don't know whether she's a teen or tween?

Anyway, you didn't ruin it. It didn't go greatly, but hey, she had fun. Isn't that all that matters? Next time you know to be more organised, that's all.

I'm sorry, but I think you're a good parent, you know why? You admitted to any feeling of guilt and I think you need to remember that a ton of parents are worse and never admit to anything.

You tried. And you're great for having to have done that!

Have a great week !! And take it easy.

[technigal]

I agree with the previous posts. Don't be so hard on yourself. Your daughter is not angry with you and it is her opinion that really matters as it was her birthday.

[lazydog]

I know from your other posts that you are going through some sort of distance with a friend, I just messed up also over the same situation so I get you I could have done the exact thing as you.

I totally missed a major important meeting because I was so caught up in the end of a relationship. Mortified, I cried for two days over the screw up meeting.

It will get better, we all make mistakes with our kids. I just asked my adult child the other day about her childhood, she told me I screwed up here and there but overall it was pretty good

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by PippaIsAlone

Hey,

Don't blame yourself. You didn't mention how old your daughter was turning so I don't know whether she's a teen or tween?

Anyway, you didn't ruin it. It didn't go greatly, but hey, she had fun. Isn't that all that matters? Next time you know to be more organised, that's all.

I'm sorry, but I think you're a good parent, you know why? You admitted to any feeling of guilt and I think you need to remember that a ton of parents are worse and never admit to anything.

You tried. And you're great for having to have done that!

Have a great week !! And take it easy.

Thank you and you are so right! I really appreciate everything that you said, and it definitely was a lesson learned. My daughter just turned eight years old but she is a very mature 8. She actually handled it a lot better than I did.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by lazydog

I know from your other posts that you are going through some sort of distance with a friend, I just messed up also over the same situation so I get you I could have done the exact thing as you.

I totally missed a major important meeting because I was so caught up in the end of a relationship. Mortified, I cried for two days over the screw up meeting.

It will get better, we all make mistakes with our kids. I just asked my adult child the other day about her childhood, she told me I screwed up here and there but overall it was pretty good

Yes, a good friend of mine is not talking to me right now for unknown reasons. For over a week I've been trying to plead with him to tell me why he's been ignoring but today I've finally decided to end all my efforts. I know that it was the best decision and you are right I definitely have been distracted. Thank for everything that you said, I have definitely screwed up with my two little ones and know that there will be times that I will in the future. That causes so much anxiety but it's getting better now I think. It seems like making those mistakes and seeing that everything is still going to be ok makes you just a little bit stronger.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by BarelyMakingIt

Yes, a good friend of mine is not talking to me right now for unknown reasons. For over a week I've been trying to plead with him to tell me why he's been ignoring but today I've finally decided to end all my efforts. I know that it was the best decision and you are right I definitely have been distracted. Thank for everything that you said, I have definitely screwed up with my two little ones and know that there will be times that I will in the future. That causes so much anxiety but it's getting better now I think. It seems like making those mistakes and seeing that everything is still going to be ok makes you just a little bit stronger.

Also, I am sorry to hear about you missing your meeting but trust me when I say I definitely understand.

[Fuzzybear]