Tangled

I can't untangle myself. I'm in DBT for BPD. We work on learning (or trying to learn) new skills to help us live better and wiser with BPD. But, as is most often the case, I have other problems that counter-act with what we are learning to do. For example, we try to be calmly assertive instead of either disappearing or screaming. But, I also have Social Phobia and GAD and I'm an extreme introvert. It's not so much that I don't know "how" to be around people, it's that I really don't want to be and don't need to be. I can't tell when a new skill is healthy for me given my other problems and desires or is something I don't need to learn. We are very messy, aren't we. Lots of to all and thanks for reading. I hope you are feeling okay today.

Hang in there. I am not a very social person in public myself due to many people I have met just being so self absorbed. I finally (took many years) stopped really trying to meet others figuring if the most important thing to them is "me," then ""me" for me needs to become my top priority too. I felt I could make "me" important and cut out the fake personality crap with others.

i feel like if you don't want to/need to be around other people, then it's not really a problem. my guess is any skill you have learned that makes you feel better/helps you cope is good.BPD is tough, ever day is a struggle but some days are better than others, yes indeed we are very very messy, but it is what it is i guess! hee hee, i don't know how much this helps, but if it helps even just a tiny bit, i'd be happy with that