[jean17]

Does anyone really understand? I simply cannot even try to explain how I feel to anyone. And no one wants to hear it anyway. I am so alone. Alone to hurt and alone to try to feel better. Another day with the same despair. If it didn't hurt so much I wouldn't care. It's the pain that is impossible to explain. My therapist says to just try to get through each minute one at time.
I don't know what else to do. She says it's not about making the pain go away but with finding skills to help me live with it. It's kind of like trying to live with a crocodile at your heels.

Hello Jean17: I shouldn't chuckle. But the analogy of trying to live with a croc at your heels brought out a chuckle anyway. Yes, I know what you mean about not being able to explain. I have gotten to the point where I don't even try. No one can understand. They don't really want to hear it. And, if I do try to describe it, it just comes out sounding weird & I end up feeling frustrated & foolish.

I don't know about what your therapist said. To some extent, I think she's probably right. At least I know my pain has never gone away & probably never will. But, at the same time, the thought of just learning to live with it, even if skillfully, is painful in-&-of itself. I think we have to hold out hope that there is at least the possibility the pain will diminish over time. At least nowadays there are lots of different options to try. I hope that you can find ones that work for you.

[Fuzzybear]

[gayleggg]

I can't add much more that The Skeezyks but I will let you know you are not alone. I get so angry and frustrated when trying to explain it, I just usually give up and say I can't explain it. At least, instead of always asking what's wrong my husband now just say's "let me know if I can do anything for you". I know he means it and can't comphend what I feeling but it's nice he try's. I have to agree with your therapist about getting through each minute if I think to far ahead of that I really get anxiety. Hope you find something that helps soon.

[waggiedog]

Hi there. I was so sorry to have read your message, it rang a million bells I'm sad to say. I wish I could say something to help you or give you hope but I'm a sufferer just like you and have been for over 30 years. I've only been officially diagnosed four years ago, prior to that all of my addmissions to the Emergency service and the Psych unit had me being called a ''time waster'' or an ''attention seeker'' ~ not nice is it. Anyways, I now in treatment with meds and DBT. Plus I'm having group therapy soley designed for folk with BPD. It's SO great to be able to share your dark awful thoughts with someone else, for we tend to think there's nobody the same as us. The group therapy is called ''STEPPS'' and it was designed by Marsha Lineham, from the USA. It's giving me a little hope where before there was none. I've just come out of a six month suicidal depression, I'm giving it a go for now. HUGS.

[technigal]

Jean. I am sorry you are having such a rough time.

[jean17]

Originally Posted by The Skeezyks

Hello Jean17: I shouldn't chuckle. But the analogy of trying to live with a croc at your heels brought out a chuckle anyway. Yes, I know what you mean about not being able to explain. I have gotten to the point where I don't even try. No one can understand. They don't really want to hear it. And, if I do try to describe it, it just comes out sounding weird & I end up feeling frustrated & foolish.

I don't know about what your therapist said. To some extent, I think she's probably right. At least I know my pain has never gone away & probably never will. But, at the same time, the thought of just learning to live with it, even if skillfully, is painful in-&-of itself. I think we have to hold out hope that there is at least the possibility the pain will diminish over time. At least nowadays there are lots of different options to try. I hope that you can find ones that work for you.

Dear The Skeezyks, I'm glad (not for your suffering), but for sharing it with me to help me cope with my own. What if it never goes away? Surely with all the help I am getting (DBT, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, GP) my pain will lesson.

[jean17]

Originally Posted by waggiedog

Hi there. I was so sorry to have read your message, it rang a million bells I'm sad to say. I wish I could say something to help you or give you hope but I'm a sufferer just like you and have been for over 30 years. I've only been officially diagnosed four years ago, prior to that all of my addmissions to the Emergency service and the Psych unit had me being called a ''time waster'' or an ''attention seeker'' ~ not nice is it. Anyways, I now in treatment with meds and DBT. Plus I'm having group therapy soley designed for folk with BPD. It's SO great to be able to share your dark awful thoughts with someone else, for we tend to think there's nobody the same as us. The group therapy is called ''STEPPS'' and it was designed by Marsha Lineham, from the USA. It's giving me a little hope where before there was none. I've just come out of a six month suicidal depression, I'm giving it a go for now. HUGS.

Waggiedog, it does help to know that others feel the same way that I do. Thanks for your help.