[atomicc]

I hardly ever post here much, because I always feel like my problems just aren't that bad. Today has been a sucky day though and I could use some support.
One of my many jobs is taking care of my grandma three days a week, she forgets things and wets her bed...and today the floor. She's mostly all there, but she's never been a nice person and I have a weird feeling about her. Being in her house as a kid gave me nightmares. She had very odd demands of me as a child, like if I slept there I wasn't allowed to wear underwear. Anyway today we heard a news story and she told me she thinks it's okay to fondle a young child. She then took it back, but I felt reaaallly weird and uncomfortable. My dad claims she says things just to shock people, which I agree with. She also told me today that she didn't know gays have sperm, which I know is total crap. She was just being a jerk there.
But I don't know...I felt anxious all day. Then I turned down a job because I had another job offer I liked better. Only to find out moments later one of the people I needed to recommend me for this new job was busy. I've been out of school a while and I don't know who the heck to ask for a recommendation of my academic skill now.
Then of course I had a stupid fight with my boyfriend because he took something I said out of context and just haaaaaaad to remind me he doesn't like to think about marriage to which I angrily responded that was okay because I don't want to marry him anyway, I'll find a man who does want to marry me.
I know, stupid thing to say, but damn it I was hurt.
Like I don't already know he doesn't want to be married to me....believe me I'm aware. Look at me.

Thanks anyone who bothered to listen.

[junkDNA]

wow thats really weird about ur grandma. the correlation of the underwear thing and then what she said regarding the news. i would feel freaked out and uncomfortable too

[technigal]

Wow! Your grandma sounds scary.

Sorry that your day has been so rough. I hate those kinds of days where everything seems to go wrong.

Hope things are better now. Sorry to have missed the chat, I was out.

[atomicc]

Originally Posted by technigal

Wow! Your grandma sounds scary.

Sorry that your day has been so rough. I hate those kinds of days where everything seems to go wrong.

Hope things are better now. Sorry to have missed the chat, I was out.

You were missed but there's always next week ! And thank you..I'm just so stressed out right now.

[Trippin2.0]

Your grandma sounds creepy, I would've been on edge around her too.

Sorry you had such a rough day, hope you managed to find a recommendation for the job, that you and bf have sorted things out, and that you're feeling much better now.

Ps. I probably would've said the exact same thing to my bf Don't feel too bad about it.

[moodycow]

hey atomic , sending you big hugs , tell grandma that its ok to dislike grandma,s sometimes and see what she makes of that !! you deserve better

Atomicc,

I will try to say this without coming across as creepy as your grandma.... If your bf does not want to marry you - he is a moron. There are TONS of guys that could only dream of finding a gal as nice as you.

That is not flattery for you. That is FACT.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( atomicc ))))))))

[gayleggg]

atomicc. I admire you for helping out with you gramdma. That is not an easy task. I helped take care of my dad as long as he was able to stay at home and he would saw some of the most offensive stuff. I just learned to ignore him most of the time and kept reminding myself that often he was in another world. So I know how hard a job watching the elderly can be. Kudos to you.

Your boyfriend was a jerk and i would probably said the same thing. Hope things have smoothed down, even though, if you want to get married someday, I might start looking for someone else.

Besure to take care of yourself. Let what you grandma says go in one hear and out the other.

wow thats creepy. i feel for u Allie i hope ur feeling better soon.
funnily enough i had same argument with my bf last night its prob cos money situ and to make a better life but obv i toom it like he doesnt want me n etc xxxx or desnt he?

[Mustkeepjob32]

You're amazing to help out your grandma. Even if she is saying things for the shock value, they are horribly awful things to say.

It's good to read your post and hope you're doing better now. I haven't been doing well at all for weeks.

[Kimaya]

Crap! Missed this while on my trip to SFC... I am sure you are probably doing better now, but that is definitely a doozy of a day!

I have to admit even though it probably wasn't too much fun I had to chuckle a little because of how much I relate to it. I have a crazy grandma too, and I'm a big meanie to my husband when he's gone and done/said something stupid XD

I hate having 'taboo' topics and basically I have a high chance of flipping out when reminded not to bring something up (or to shut up as I see it). Even though this might be the agreed upon solution right now, don't beat yourself up at your reaction, not having closure and resolution is tough for us, right?! You are probably doing really good.

*huuuuuuuuuuugs*

[Malachite]

Dear Atomic,

I found your grandmother's underwear prohibition troubling. Have you ever told your parents about it? Have you discussed it with your therapist? If you haven't, I really think; it would be constructive to do so.

Larry

[atomicc]

Originally Posted by Malachite

Dear Atomic,

I found your grandmother's underwear prohibition troubling. Have you ever told your parents about it? Have you discussed it with your therapist? If you haven't, I really think; it would be constructive to do so.

Larry

Yeah, my parents knew about it. They just think she's a big weirdo, and so do I. I don't know. She said some uncomfortable stuff the other day about how I was wearing shorts under a dress and it'd take someone forever to rape me and kept talking about how hard they'd have to try.
I made sure to tell her how absolutely not funny that was.