What are your triggers?

When people seem genuinely interested in me. (I came from a chaotic home, most of my childhood memories are of my parents fighting. And then the man who abused me seemed kind and interested in me. What a cruel twist of fate. )

Yes. That was a scary realization for me but I was almost too late...

My triggers:
-Music
-Chemicals
-Smells, especially foods
-Whispering
-Laughter I'm not involved in
-Crowds
-Older men
-Kids (I was bullied a lot, so they make me anxious now)
-Any negative criticism
-Physical contact

Loud noises

Being ignored by my friends

Being pranked

Being made fun of

Being patronized

Being excluded

Basically anything that makes me feel like I'm not important.

Oh boy, name it.

I totally get that! One of my favorite elementary school teachers wore this certain perfume (not sure what it is), but whenever I catch a whiff of it, a sense of relaxation and nurturing comes over me.

I get that same feelings with Calvin Klein's Obsession, because my mum wore it a lot when I was a little girl.

Glad I am not the only one. Apparently there is a term for it

criticism
being ignored or brushed off

those are the 2 big ones for me.

Same with me. Criticism that comes off as too harsh makes me cry, and being ignored just makes me feel all sorts of nasty things.

I've been in groups that made it apparent that I was being judged and defined in some way. It was very disconcerting to have more than one person make some nonchalant comment that made it appear that at least several people were talking about me behind my back, and decided something about me, and decided to let me know in petty ways.

It was difficult not to become a little paranoid. How many of them really believed this about me? Was it my problem, or theirs?

Anyone else been there?

I've definitely been there.

It was really mean of your friends to talk behind your back and then be petty enough to let you know in a group setting. I don't think it was you're problem at all.

Thank you.. but, it wasn't my friends. It was people in churches and people in the military. And, I am by no means perfect, or always an innocent victim...

Ah, I see. I must have misinterpreted what you had said, my apologies.

No worries. It didnt happen with friends in my case, because I never had any!

Definitely. My worst triggered depression came from the comment of someone who is a family member that made me feel all of those things. I still feel it. I felt isolated, and apart, and helpless to defend myself to the unknown judgments I had earned.

edit - my transient paranoia has always been bad though... oddly somehow this time caught me off guard because of the makeup of the group. I don't think my paranoia could get any worse without becoming the psychotic type - for me it was like it made it feel as though what everyone was saying would be true and it was useless to fight.

It's difficult not to feel victimized. Especially if one has been a victim as a child. The worst part for me was that at times I had no one on my side (especially the abuse I endured as a child).

But, I did notice, that in most cases, if I looked carefully, I could find little hints that others knew what was going on and acknowledged it... they didn't fight for me, necessarily, but at least I knew the judgement in question wasn't something that literally "everyone" believed about me.

And, also, I noticed it isn't something that happens to just me. I see the same types of behavior happen, but with someone else as the target. I don't like it. and I look for ways to let the target know that not everyone is in agreement.

Getting judged or criticized
Feeling ignored or excluded
Being in an unfamiliar place
Being around unfamiliar people
Getting laughed at
People yelling or starting arguments
Not getting responses via text or email
Close ones leaving for a few days

generalisation
stigma
bein in strange places
bein told i cant go home when i need to in middle of night in bfs house lol
feeling ignored
txt messages not bein replied to in reasonable time given (4hours tops!)
getting laughed at
people shouting
perople judging me, and my appearance
people leaving for few days
gettin tiold by my mum im a wasye of space,

Just found a new one Aladdin. FFS. Thanks Larry. Really.

May I ask why? X

I have an ex who caused me a lot of pain emotionally (I walked into that relationship thinking I had no self esteem. He proved me wrong by taking away what little I didn't realize I had.) During the initial courting phase (when he was still being nice) A Whole New World is a song he related to us.

I didn't even realize it until tonight when Aladdin came on TV and I just froze up and started crying. Couldn't even change the channel.

Sorry for mentioning it xxx massive hugs

I have loads.

Ignorant arseholes

People that talk too much about themselves

Being cuddled

Fake people

Being criticised by someone I care about

Patronised

Being ignored

Feeling inadequate/small/stupid/not good enough

Some music or certain films

People who are in your face/think they are so special/above people

Too much affection

Not enough personal space

Loud noises/ too much stimuli

Strangers/new places

Stress

Mum

Brothers

Partner

Chauvinistic pigs

Controlling people

Yeah, that sums it up, for now lol...

No need to be sorry.

I love you people