Making a mistake? Pls help.

Several months ago I met a man who has to be at least 15 years younger than me, is married with two kids, and deals dope. Yet he seems to be attracted to me. I'm afraid I could easily start an affair with him, which as a borderline I know would be a huge mistake for me and would probably set me way back in my recovery. But I'm so lonely, and it's been such a long time since I've been with anyone, that I probably can't stop it from moving forward. I KNOW what I should do; I just don't know if I CAN. ie, stay as far away from him as possible. I could really use some feedback.

You answered your own question. It's so difficult, but stay away. Best for you, and him, and his children. And if you do anything, make sure his children are safe and cared for, bc if not, being a mother myself, please act on that, if they are not.

I don't know if that helped at all, but hugs.

*** Warning: FRANK AND BLUNT OPINION BELOW ***

If this guy deals dope and has a wife and children, he is a selfish and senseless *****ing moron. Please realize that you deserve much better than him.

You know, it's funny (well, not funny at all, really), but I've been there on the other side. My husband left me for someone else when my son was a month old. At the time I said it's up to women to end adultery;if we all refused to sleep with married men, it would stop it. Now look at me! Thanks - and his kids are safe.

STAY AWAY! Look, this guy is married so this really is disgusting and wont go anywhere other than heart break for you at the end of it. He has kids...do you really want to be the reason his family breaks up? You are both being very selfish. And to top this all of he is a drug dealer? I mean come on, really? You are both very selfish to even play with the idea. Get a grip.

Sorry for being blunt but what you are proposing will hurt a lot of lives including your own. Please find a single man.

Take care.

Yes, I totally agree.

Side note - I love the quote in your signature !

I don't think it's up to women to end adultery--that's taking an awful lot of responsibility off of men who, in some cases, are the instigators. As if they somehow can't help it but women can. Even if all women stopped sleeping with married men, that still doesn't stop the man with the wandering eye from wanting to wander. Or vice-versa (since women stray, too). Anyway. Just my 2 cents. I've never been married...nor in an adulterous relationship, for that matter. So maybe I don't know.