Contestant attention

So If any of you have seen my posts lately... You would of seen about that I have been seeing another bpd..

But my question really is... If when your romantically involved with the opposite sex. And for what ever reason they don't reply or give you the attention your wanting...
Do you look for other male attention?
Not always in a sexual way but just well you know... Or maybe you don't

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Yes... Is the short answer.

I do this. It's not something I am proud of and has cost me in the past. Another reason I am abstaining from relationships

What do you mean?
Did you get caught talking to other guys?

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YES, YES, and YES, but this is a bad idea for me, because the lines between friendship and lover are blurred and I cross back and forth on that line. But yes, I still do it.

So do you mean with friends you've never had sexual experience with?

Cos I tend to do it with people I know could be potential rather then non potential!!

But either way... When I get the attention off the one I want mostly. I ignore the others like they don't exist!!

My god that's harsh. I really need to work on this.


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Yes, I do it with anyone I think I'm interested in...I tell myself and them it's a friendship, but in reality I don't know how to keep my boundaries, b/c my emotions are all over the place. It's dangerous if you have a relationship that is pretty healthy and then you regret messing it up. A relationship is never the same when betrayal happens!

Yes I see this... But I don't have this. I don't tend to make new friends. And my friends I have I don't seem to project any of my issues with them.

It's only with romantic interests..
So I have issues that we are just friends but are sexual (friends with benefits) so to speak!!

So what the hell does that mean!! He gives me hard time if a male messages me who is really just a friend.
And I get jealous about a girl he says is just a friend.. Which I know is a lie!!

So what are the boundaries with friends with benefits?? Cos I don't bloody get it

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Used to and paid the price with rape.

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I'm so sorry this happened to you xx

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Sometimes I almost wish I had this arrangement with my husband, just let him go and do his thiNG with other women, as long as it didn't mean anything and I never had to know about it, since I can't seem to get over my issues. I hate that I can't at least please him sexually. I feel terrible, like I'm the worst wife ever. The really bad thing is that i want to want sex so much. I've asked doctor after doctor if there was anything they could give me or do for me. Nope! Of course not. Because nobody cares if women have no sex drive, but God forbid men don't, the world stops turning on its axis until they find a cure! Men must have sex!!!! They must enjoy themselves. But women, well, heck, we've taught them to not enjoy themselves during sex for 1000's of years anyway, who cares if they still aren't enjoying themselves? So frustrating!

I'm no therapist when it comes to sex.. But I did hear once that the more you do it the more you want it. It's like a drug
Maybe you just need to experiment a little with your husband! Maybe try roll play.
By a wig bring out your alter ego!!
Buy 50 shades of grey amazing read.



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