[greyclouds]

I am any more or where I'm going or what I'm doing!!
I'm stuck.
People keep telling me I'm this I'm that...
And I don't see it.
I always think I put other people's needs before my own.
I guess I feel needed and forget about my issues then.

But it seems everyone keeps telling me how God damn selfish I am.
And I'm only out for myself.
And that I'm the one who confuses things.

I wish I so wish that I could see myself through other people's eyes.
Because I am completely blind to what I am meant to be.

I get scolded for being nice and scolded for not caring I can't win not ever.
It's like a never ending war.

[liv4tw]

I know the feels . I'm sorry.

[greyclouds]

Originally Posted by liv4tw

I know the feels . I'm sorry.

I'm kind of glad I'm not alone but sorry you feel this. Too.

I've not even got angry when I've been told this several times today. I've stayed reasonable I was reasonable before they lost their temper.
So I really don't understand.

Am I sick with bpd or are they sick by apparently being normal!??

[liv4tw]

I think it depends on the situation, really. I've been told I'm very selfish, but I know that I have good intentions.

Just because we have bpd doesn't make other people perfect. If you have a big heart, people have the tendency to walk all over you.

The best thing you can do is just evaluate the situation and use facts only, leaving out emotions, to determine who might be in the right (if it even matters)

[Crazy Hitch]

Negative talk or "constructive criticism" from other people ..... grrrrrr ....... I must say I don't respond very well to that kind of thing. It makes me doubt myself as a person. I try and stay away from people like that and I certainly don't consider them "normal". I have enough self esteem issues as it is and I feel no qualms about cutting off someone entirely if, in my perspective, I have nothing to gain from their acquaintance.

For granted I don't really have that many friends but the only comments I'm going to bother absorbing right now are from those who accept me for who I am, warts and all, because nobody's perfect in this world anyway. And other people can go remove the log from their eye before they try to remove the spec from mine.

Well as for seeing yourself through other people's eyes - don't bother. We were not put on this earth to be liked by everyone. Those that matter don't mind. Those who mind don't matter.

Be well. Be you.

[Angelique67]

I was told I'm too negative. But I really don't think I am, more so than anyone else. I have to keep from being enraged when things like that happen. It's just not important.