Is my whole personality fake?

I just keep getting endless $h*t thrown at me. I have been told for the last year & a half that I am manipulative. It always bothered me but it really got to me today. Someone told me that I am very good at manipulating my parents & I have manipulated them to keep talking to me. I asked them for examples on how I mainpulate my parents. This person hasnt even seen me & my mom interact with one another! They claimed to have "heard & seen things" but didn't tell me anything! Theycouldn't even give me a specific example. They said "Every way, everyday, everything". I told them to tell me something SPECIFIC & they didn't! It makes me think that they are confused & don't know what else to say so they slap the word "manipulative" to my personality. I cried & punched myself in the face a few times when they told me every time I open my mouth, I manipulate some. I'm starting to think it's true. If everything that comes out of my mouth is being said for me to gain something, then that means I'm completely fake right? There's nothing real or honest about manipulating people! I'm so confused. I feel guilty for speaking. I question everything about myself. Even me posting this.

You need to STOP harming yourself because of what others say to you. Why are you giving them this much POWER!!!! You are 16 for godness sake who are you talking to whoever my advice is STOP!!!

I know, I know. It's hard to stop. It isn't that bad though. My face isn't even bruised. I don't know why I've given them so much power. They are important to me. I take in everything they say & it affects me deeply whether good or bad. I'm trying to cut off contact. I keep letting myself get pulled in.nim getting weaker & weaker. I've ruined whatever little self esteem I had left.

Just because someone tells you something about yourself, it doesnt mean its true.
If anything it seems ad though this person has manipulated you into feeling how you do

I have been reading some of your threads and i know you are having a hard time.
I am not sure what advice i can give you but i can offer you my support.
Do you have a therapist?

I need to stop getting so paranoid. I just don't get why they think this. What could I have done that they would think that? I have never planned to be evil or to persuade someone into something bad. Okay so I've persuaded someone to understand me & my side of things? Who hasn't? Is that so bad? I don't lie or fabricate anything. When I say something, I genuinely think or feel that way. I feel like my intentions aren't evil but maybe deep down they are... Can you be manipulative without realizing it?

Hi nochildsupport,

I think that whoever is feeding you this nonsense needs to stop.

They don't even have a specific example.

They don't even know you that well - so who are they to judge?

I think that their comments are hurtful. It's easy enough for me to say don't pay any attention to the negative judgment. But I know how much this has upset you.

If you can, for now, limit your contact with this person.

The negativity that they are feeding you is not helping you in this situation.

Take care.

We want you to be well.

I had written a lengthy and if you don't mind me saying - rather good response to this thread. And then my computer pulled a fit.

Darg gonnit.

Anyway, the emphasis was on manipulation being somewhat necessary to life and not solely negative in it's purpose. Yes you can be manipulative on a less conscious level but i get the feeling that even those who decide to manipulate don't have to think about it much anyway. I feel sort of deficient in that particular skill. If i'm going to be manipulative i'd at least like more control over it's use

Is this thread in regard to your cousin? Well, we know the details of that situation; it's deeply entrenched and involves abuse on both sides. She is not in a position to offer criticism considering her previous behaviour - nor are you in a position to solicit such information based on your own difficulties.

As for the rest, i was imploring you to find a way of joining your father despite any obstacles which might have prevented this from happening sooner. I don't know the ins and outs of the US health system nor am i aware of your families current circumstances, but there must be a way of seeking help which supersedes your mothers disinclination towards therapy. You posted about feeling suicidal recently - when is enough enough? Get the authorities involved if you have too. It doesn't mean that you don't love your mum, of course you do, but you have a right to adequate support and therapy - neither of which are currently being facilitated.

Please know that for all the negativity you're currently experiencing - you have a wealth of support and cheer leading on offer to you here for as long as you need it.

Seems to me that the person in question is the one trying to be manipulative.

Trying to make you feel bad using vague insults because they couldn't come up with anything concrete.

What is manipulative any way? Ive know a few manipulative people and i wouldnt say they are evil. I would say thaey are both sneaky and highly inteligent.
I think if someone called me manipulative it wouldnt bother me too much. There are worse things to be called.

I hope you feel better soon.